October 23rd, 2017
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Ben and John


  • Favorite Hobby

    Ben: Traveling

    John: Cooking

  • Favorite Food

    Ben: Anything with cheese

    John: Steak

  • Favorite Holiday

    Ben: Thanksgiving

    John: Christmas

  • Favorite Movie

    Ben: The Great Escape

    John: Clue

  • Favorite Animal

    Ben: Dog

    John: Dog

  • Favorite Vacation

    Ben: Key West

    John: Vermont

  • Favorite Actress

    Ben: Judi Dench

    John: Meryl Streep

  • Favorite TV Show

    Ben: Modern Family

    John: Doctor Who

  • Favorite Singer

    Ben: Billy Joel

    John: Adele

Hello & Welcome! We are Ben and John from Massachusetts!

Dear Birthmother: Thank you for giving us the opportunity to introduce ourselves and share our story with you. We hugely respect your decision to consider adoption and are humbled that you are taking the time to learn about us. We have always wanted to adopt and are excited to welcome a child into our home and our family. We know that becoming parents is an enormous commitment and we are dedicated to being the best possible dads. We hope that the next few pages will give you a sense of who we are, how much love we have to give, and how enthusiastic we are about adding your child to our family.

Who We Are: We both grew up along the New York border and went to the same coffee shop during high school and college, but didn’t meet until 2006 when we entered law school in Boston. We exchanged glances during the first week of school and, after a romantic date at a Thai restaurant near campus, we haven’t looked back.  When we first met we both lived in very student-friendly parts of Boston. Since then we have moved several times and now live in a home in a beach community along Massachusetts’ north shore. We have enjoyed each new home, sought out new friends, and have become involved in each community. We are now in our long-term home, have become involved in local organizations, and are exploring all the restaurants, shops, and activities our new town has to offer. Whether we are walking the beach, visiting the local ice cream shop, or simply gardening in the backyard, we enjoy spending time together and can’t wait to share our love with a child.  We have spent the last ten years learning about each other, traveling, exploring new cuisines and countries and become loving, grounded and supportive parents.



Meet John

About John, By John: I grew up in New York and am the oldest of four boys. Having grown up in a close family I can’t wait to expand our own and introduce our child to all of their extended family! Even though my family didn’t have much money, my parents made sure that my brothers and I had everything that we needed, which made me appreciate my family and the small pleasures in life. My family is very close and I have a lot of memories of my grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins coming to my parents’ house to have family dinners. Coming from a predominately Italian family, food was a central feature in my childhood and big family meals are a tradition I plan to continue.  I love cooking, baking and using my collection of kitchen gadgets and cookbooks to experiment with new dishes. I have great memories of cooking with both of my grandmothers and can’t wait to teach our children how to cook and bake. Since moving to our new home I’ve added basic carpentry and small home improvement projects to my hobbies. I also enjoy taking trips with my family (whether it’s competing in the Tough Mudder, traveling to my uncle’s lake house in North Carolina), or traveling with Ben around New England or across Europe.  After graduating from college with a degree in business, I went on to law school and began my career as an attorney. Although my job is sometimes very busy, I have the flexibility to work from my home office, which allows me to spend more time at home with Ben and our future child.

A Little About John, By Ben: John is without question the most amazing and family-focused person I know. He has the ability to balance home and work, always making the time to consider all of my needs and feelings. Whether it is a cute text message during the day, coming home with a gift, or cooking me an amazing dinner, he is forever thinking of me and the rest of his family. I have never been in doubt that John cares deeply for me and truly values a close relationship with his family.  John is engaged and involved with each of his family members. He frequently calls his out-of-state family members, arranges a meal with his nearby brother, and is always willing to travel to celebrate a milestone in a family member’s life. John has talked about children since we first began dating (long before any of our friends had children) and I can see the spark in his eyes when we visit our niece and nephew or meet the latest addition to our friends’ families. I know that John would bring the same thoughtfulness and excitement to our own child’s life. I know that John will be a loving, caring and protective dad.



Meet Ben

About Ben, by Ben: I love meeting new people, digging into projects, & helping those around me. I was born in England and grew up in Illinois and Connecticut as the second of three sons. My parents prioritized raising us in a healthy and happy environment, with family dinners and activities from cub scout campouts to YMCA swim classes. After completing law school, I began working in an international law firm, but two years ago I moved to a position in public service and currently work in the juvenile justice system to re-direct troubled youths towards a better path.  I have worked and volunteered in local government, am on the board of a regional civil rights charity, and feel strongly that I have a duty to help improve my community. I also make time to have dinner with friends, work on our home and garden, and exercise. I like to travel, and have trekked around countries in Europe, Africa, and South America. I’m looking forward to showing a child all that New England and the world have to offer!

About Ben, Through John’s Eyes: ben is my best friend, one of my biggest supporters and one of the most outgoing people I know. Ben’s outgoing nature has definitely helped me to come out of my shell and be more outgoing and adventurous (as my brothers pointed out during their best-men speech at our wedding). Ben’s patience with my kitchen “experiments” is endless (even when it results in about twenty dirty dishes), and I know that will serve him well with our children.  Ben is the more task-oriented of the two of us. Without him I’d probably still be lost somewhere on our honeymoon without any idea where our hotel is or how to get to the airport. Even though Ben is very task-oriented and driven in his career and life, he’s also still just a giant kid at heart (including being endlessly amused by corny jokes), which makes him a favorite of our nephew and niece, and the neighborhood kids (and their parents when they need a babysitter).  Ben is going to be an amazing dad. He always has time to listen to those around him, has an endless well of patience, is funny (don’t tell him I said that), calm, supportive and protective. I honestly can’t imagine my life without Ben and know that I wouldn’t be where I am today without him.



Our Family and Friends

We are incredibly lucky to have most of our family within driving distance of our home.  While we fly to England to see Ben’s extended family, we drive to see his parents in Connecticut and his younger brother lives just down the street from them with his fiancée and their two dogs. Ben’s older brother, his wife and their two young children are even closer. Ben’s family is close and living near the beach has made our home a destination so we see them even more frequently now!  John’s parents live just 20 miles from Ben’s parents, so we often visit both sets of parents in the same day or the same weekend. John’s mom is anxiously awaiting her first grandchild and is enthusiastic about our hopes to adopt. John’s father is a funny and open-hearted person who will undoubtedly quickly shower a grandchild with affection. John’s three brothers are all in graduate school.

Holidays and Traditions: Ben’s family is excited to welcome a new child who will join in birthday celebrations, indulge in the Thanksgiving feast, and experience English Christmas traditions of paper crowns, rich desserts, and corny jokes.  Christmas Eve is the biggest event in John’s family’s calendar, and the entire family collects in one place to celebrate. With countless cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, second cousins, and family friends, the house is bursting with fun, games, story-telling, and amazing Christmas cheer (not to mention wonderful food!).



Our Home and Closing Thoughts

Our Home and Community: We live in a large Victorian home on the north shore of Massachusetts that has lots of character and plenty of nooks and crannies for kids to explore. We enjoy small projects around the house and have worked hard to turn it from a house into a home.  Our home is located half a block from the excellent elementary school that our future child would attend, and the beach and town hall lawn – the site of the summer Strawberry Festival and a winter ice rink – are just a few minutes walk. Our quiet, tree-lined street is home to a number of children and we see them walk, run, or bike past our door on their way to school, the park, or the beach. We are happy to have neighbors from a variety of backgrounds and are especially lucky to have neighbors and friends who have also adopted children.

Closing Thoughts: Thank you again for taking the time to learn about us, our family, and our lives. We are excited to grow our family, continue family traditions, and give your child our love, attention, and affection. We promise to be the best possible dads and to fill your child’s life with fun, education, and adventure!