Dear Birth Mother
Hello! We are Tom and Jen and we live in the San Francisco Bay Area. We have a sweet and funny eight-year-old son named Brian. Thank you for taking the time to read our profile, it means so much to us. We can’t even begin to imagine what you are feeling, but we understand what an important decision this is for you. You are incredibly brave, and your selflessness shows how much love you truly have for this child. We hope you let your heart be your guide in your choice as we have with our decision. The thought of welcoming your child into our family fills us with so much joy. We’ve always dreamed of having a second child. My pregnancy with Brian came easily. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case for a second one. After a few years of trying on our own we decided to meet with a fertility specialist. During this process we learned that I had endometriosis and a large cyst growing on my ovary. I ended up needing surgery and it couldn’t have gone better. A year later I am back to my healthy self. It was important for us to go through this experience because we found that infertility treatments weren’t for us and really just never felt right. The more we talked about adopting something about it just felt right in our hearts.
How we met!
Tom and Jen met at a Cinco de Mayo party 15 years ago. Tom loved Jen’s green eyes and appreciation for silly humor, so he asked her out. After their first date, Jen ran in and told her roommate, “I met the man that I’m going to marry!” A few years later, Tom proposed to Jen on a secluded beach while on vacation in Bermuda.
Both of us grew up just across the Golden Gate Bridge form each other, but we didn’t meet until a few years after we graduated college. We now live in a beautiful community in the Silicon Valley. We were married about eleven years ago in Las Vegas. It was so special to us to have so many family and close friends share in our day. We both enjoy traveling, being out in nature, trying out new restaurants (especially one we saw on Diners Drive-ins and Dives), seeing movies, watching Marvel super hero series or Stranger Things on Netflix. We both still love Mexican food, and Tom has developed a famous guacamole recipe! Our families are both extremely supportive and all live within a couple hours drive.
Fun Facts about our Family
I grew up in Marin County (north of the Golden Gate Bridge). I graduated from the University of California, Davis, earning degrees in electrical and computer engineering. For the past 15 years I’ve worked at a top electronics company. I enjoy the flexible work hours, and leverage my home office often to achieve a better work/life balance. I enjoy playing golf, basketball and exploring our National Park System. I look forward to playing with our future child, teaching Lego and board games, and exploring the world through hikes and travels. I love learning about history, geography and science. I have collected so many facts that my three sisters have banned me from playing Trivial Pursuit with them!
Fun Facts about Tom:
More About Tom, by Jen
Tom is a wonderful husband and father. His silly sense of humor is what drew me to him on our first date. He made me laugh and everything seemed easy and relaxed with him. We both have similar family backgrounds and values. When I’m down Tom knows how to cheer me up and vice versa. We are a perfect balance to each other. Tom loves getting out in the backyard with our son and shooting hoops or playing catch and it fills my heart to see them spending time together. The patience he shows with Brian is amazing. Tom takes so much pride in being able to provide for his family. I can always count on him to be home to have dinner as a family. It means so much to us that Tom values the time we all spend together. Tom is such a great dad, I can’t wait to see him become a father all over again.
I was born in Michigan, but moved with my parents to the Bay Area when I was three. I grew up just south of San Francisco in a great neighborhood full of kids. There was lots of bike riding, water balloon fights and block parties. Education was always important in my family. As parents, Tom and I also value and encourage a college education for our own children. I graduated from Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, Washington, with a BFA in Graphic Design. Being home for my kids is important to me. Currently I work as an independent contractor for a company that sells printing. I like my job because it helps keep my skills sharp, but gives me the flexibility to work from home and the ability to take on as much or as little as I want. I’m very active at my son’s school where I volunteer as a docent for the art program, go on field trips and help his teacher during class. I love working with kids, watching them grow and helping them learn.
Fun Facts about Jen:
More About Jen, by Tom
In many ways Jen is my opposite. I am firmly based in science and engineering, and she is a talented artist and graphic designer. These differences are reasons why I love her so much and why we make a great team. Our complementary backgrounds ensure that we have no weak spots. Jen is also an amazing mother. She provides a loving, nurturing environment for children in our home as well as in the school that she volunteers at. Jen truly cares about others and instills these values in those around her. I am excited to see Jen become a mother again, and I know she will provide the same loving environment. Best of all, Jen is an awesome cook!
Brian is a sweet, smart and funny eight year old. He is in second grade, loves to read and enjoys all types of sports. Brian has three cousins and one on the way. He is very close with all of his cousins, but especially with five year old Emma. Emma lives about an hour away, but we try to get together as much as we can. Seeing the way Brian interacts with Emma, I know he would make the best big brother to our future child.
Favorites by Brian
Movie: Star Wars
Book: Stink and Judy Moody
Sports to play: Soccer and Baseball
Sport to watch on TV: Baseball
Favorite Teams: San Francisco Giants, Warriors
A Message From Brian
I am very excited to become a big brother! I can’t wait to read books to my new sister or brother and teach them how to play sports. We will have fun swimming at Grandma’s house in the summer. I will have fun with my new sister or brother.
Our Home & Community
We live in the San Francisco Bay Area, in a small town that is home to cherry orchards, farmland and tight knit community. Our home is two stories with four bedrooms and three bathrooms. Our neighborhood is very safe and we know many of our neighbors. There are sidewalks and three parks within our development. A big reason why we chose this neighborhood is because of the good schools nearby. Also, our homeowners association puts on an egg hunt at our park with the Easter Bunny and Santa visits at Christmas. We also live close to hiking and biking trails which we visit often. We are so happy we chose this community to raise a family.
Some things we enjoy doing in our town:
Going to the library
Free music events downtown
Skittles The Cat
Skittles is a feral cat we rescued as a kitten shortly after we were married. He earned the name Skittles because he is a little shy. If we have company over he usually hides, but he loves his family. When Brian came into the picture Skittles didn’t want much to do with him, but eventually Brian won him over with some tuna, and now they are good friends. I’m sure Skittles will be happy to have another playmate, especially if he can get a tuna treat!
Our Family & Friends
We are very close with both of our immediate families. My parents, Joyce and Jack live in our same town and we see each other often. It’s so nice that they are close to help out with Brian when we need them. It is very important to my parents to be close to their grandchildren. I also have a younger brother named John, who lives near by. Tom’s mom Sharon, lives in the same house Tom and his sisters grew up in, about an hour and a half away from us. Tom has three sisters! Kristy is the oldest; she is married to Paul and has two boys, Jack and Kyle. Jack is a freshman in college and Kyle is a sophomore in high school. Patty is the second oldest, she lives in Austin, Texas with her husband Mark. Tom is next in the birth order and Susie is the youngest. Susie is married to Brad and they have a daughter Emma (5) and a son on the way. With the exception of Patty and Mark everyone lives within a two-hour drive.
Top 5 Favorite Family Holiday Traditions:
Words can’t express how thankful we are that you would consider us for this precious gift. We promise to provide a loving and supportive family environment. Our entire family is beyond excited to welcome a new addition and we know in our hearts that this is what is meant for us.