Dear Birthmother,

My name is Carmela and, though I take pride in being able to communicate fairly well, I now find myself at a loss… How do I begin to communicate my thoughts and emotions about this extraordinary journey of adoption?

I write this knowing what a difficult and heartfelt decision this must be for you.  The generous choice you are making to place your baby for adoption is both noble and selfless.  You are giving someone the greatest gift imaginable—the gift of family and the opportunity to love and cherish a child.

If I were to adopt your child, it would be important for me to tell him or her about your loving decision.

Let’s see… a little about me:

I live in a beautiful house near the beach and can’t wait until it is no longer a house but a home filled with love and laughter, music and dancing and lots of smooches and hugs!  I am an animal lover (especially cats) and have a ten-year old cat named Sammy.

I enjoy playing Scrabble, doing crosswords, going to the movies, live theatre and concerts, and exploring museums and bookstores.  I love music and listen to all types.  Unfortunately, I cannot carry a tune or even dance that well but I do it anyway when the music speaks to me J.

I really enjoy entertaining friends in my home and often decorate to reflect various celebrations, holidays and seasons.

I’ve been fortunate in that I’ve traveled to quite a few places both in the United States (to cities like New Orleans, Washington DC, Boston and New York City, which is a favorite!) and overseas (to places like Paris, Rome, Venice, Austria, Switzerland and London, which is another favorite!) and look forward to sharing the wonders of our world and various cultures with a child.  I think it is important to know, appreciate and respect different cultures.

I, together with a business partner who is also a great friend, own a special event production/meeting planning company.  Over the past 12 years, we have planned numerous themed children’s holiday parties such as “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer,” “Polar Express,” Auntie Claus,” “Charlie Brown Christmas,” “Frosty the Snowman,” Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” and an “Alice in Wonderland Easter Eggstravanganza!”  I can’t wait to plan birthdays and other special “fun” days as a parent.  My business partner and I take pride that we started with $800.00 between us and together grew our company into the successful business it is today.  I have a flexible schedule and am able to work from home, which will allow a lot of time to be a hands-on mom!

I am a very grounded and stable person and have an active, productive and fulfilling life.  My parents, who will be celebrating their 45th wedding anniversary this year, raised me in an atmosphere of unconditional love, support, encouragement, warmth and affection.  

My dad is one of the most intelligent people I have ever met. I am always in awe of his vast knowledge of world history, geography, literature, sports, and the arts and sciences.  I love watching my dad as a doting grandfather to my brother’s children and there is nothing like seeing my nephew’s face light up when he sees his Grandpa Ben.  I know he will also be a fantastic and loving grandfather to my child.

If truth be told, I am a “Mama’s girl” and have been blessed with a mom who is the personification of the word “mother”.   She is supportive and loving and I am so lucky to also call her my best friend.  My mom instilled in me values, tradition, the importance of higher education and being self-reliant, the desire to learn, responsibility, respect, the strength of family, faith and love.  But most of all, she has been my biggest fan and has always believed in me. My mom is also one of the warmest people you would ever want to meet.  She never believed a child could be spoiled with too much love or affection and always told us she loved us.  She is so warm and affectionate that, to this day, my mom still “smooches” and hugs my adult brother and me.   I believe her warmth is a testament to the power of touch and human connection.

I have always wanted to be a mom and the opportunity to be a parent like my mom is something I’ve hoped for all my life.  She continues to inspire me and is my greatest role model.  She is just as excited and thrilled about the adoption as I am, if that is possible!

Because of my upbringing I am, by nature, warm and affectionate and I do not hesitate to tell my friends and family that I love them on a regular basis. 

My child will be welcomed with open arms and open hearts into a family filled with loving grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, not to mention a circle of supportive friends who will also be doting “aunts” and “uncles”.

My family is a very close family and we have lots of cousins scattered between California and Michigan.  We celebrate Thanksgiving every other year in Michigan.  I happen to be in charge of pies! 

Because we truly enjoy one another’s company, we try to get together often.  Last summer, about 20 of us went on a two-week vacation together overseas to Armenia (my mother is Armenian) and Paris. 

I am “Aunt Carmela” to my friends’ children, my younger cousins and adorable nephew and niece.  I am honored to be a godmother (twice over!).

I know that being a single mom will not be without its challenges but I am committed and confident that, with the support of my loving friends and family, my child will be raised in a secure and stable environment.  He or she will be cherished with all my heart and will grow up with the knowledge that you wanted the very best for them and that you chose adoption as the ultimate expression of your love.

Thank you again for taking the time to get to know me and for considering me as a potential parent to your child.  I can’t begin to express how much I respect and admire you for the decision you are about to make.  I hope I, in some way, can help make your choice easier.  I wish you peace of mind, confidence, clarity and security with your decision.

Warmly and with gratitude,

Carmela

If you would like to speak to me about adopting your child or have any questions for me, please contact your Adoption Advisor at AdoptHelp, toll-free at 1-800-637-7999.