Dear Birthmother,
We are John and Cheryl, and we both come from families made very special because of adoption. We want to tell you our story and everything we hope to offer you and the child you are about to give birth to.
Thank you for considering us as you select the adoptive parents for your child. We do not yet know of the journey that has brought you to us, and are looking forward to talking with you and sharing your hopes and dreams for your child. If you choose us, we will always remember you with gratitude and will love your child with all our hearts.
Cheryl's Special Ties to Adoption - By Cheryl
Six years before I was born, my mother was a birth mother. She was 16 years old, and wanted her baby very much. She loved the baby she was carrying, and had so many dreams for her child, dreams that she knew she wouldn’t be able to provide for. She found a loving couple who were married for over 20 years and were unable to have a child, and who wanted a baby more than anything in the world. They were also very supportive of my mom and promised that the baby would always know who she came from and of the loving decision my mother had made. They adopted the baby when she was born and named her Reda.
My mom began her life anew, moving to another state where she could find a better job and go back to school. Three years later she met and married my dad, and in another three years I was born. As I grew up I always knew Reda’s story, how much my mother had loved her and of her sacrifice to do what she knew was best for her. By the time I was born, my mom and dad were able to give me the life my mother had been unable to give Reda. Like Reda with her adoptive parents, I grew up knowing that I was the most important person in my parents’ lives, and they worked hard to give me every opportunity to achieve my dreams. I will always have the highest respect for the choice my mom made, and of all birth mothers who make this important decision.
My extended family has also been enriched by adoption. I have two adopted cousins, an adopted brother and sister-in-law, and an adopted niece. They became my family through the miracle of adoption.
I am very sorry to say that my mom passed away several years ago. One of the last things she said to me was, “you will make such a wonderful mother.” I believe I will be a wonderful mother and will do everything I can to live up to her words. As I have watched John with children and with our very spoiled dogs over the years, I can see he will be a great father. He is honest, loving, and intelligent and has a great sense of humor.
John’s Special Ties To Adoption – By John
I’ve known the benefits of adoption since I was young. I have three natural siblings, and when my family was young my parents sponsored two Korean orphans, Kim and Debbie. Although a world apart, our entire family’s regular correspondence with these children grew into the same love we felt for each other. The entire family voted to adopt Kim and Debbie, who joined us in our home, three boys in one bedroom, three girls in another with two languages and cultures. We all grew up together as one large, happy family.
Years later, Debbie, and her husband Tim, gave birth to two sons. For their third child, Debbie wanted to give back some of the love her adoptive family had given her, and she and Tim chose to adopt a baby girl, Serena. Debbie, Tim and Serena often stay in our home over the holidays. Serena is such a happy child, with a great sense of humor. We love her very much and are so glad that she is our niece.
My two best friends, Curt and John, were also adopted as babies. We often get together and spend weekends together with their families, and I enjoy seeing how much they both love their adoptive parents.
Our Love and Marriage
We are “childhood sweethearts.” We met when Cheryl was a senior in high school and John was a freshman in college. We had a large church wedding and reception with all our family and friends, then drove up the California coast together for a romantic honeymoon. This was only the first of many romantic getaways we have taken over our many years of marriage. We are best friends and love each other deeply.
Our Home
Our home is set on a large lot in a nice suburban neighborhood, with beautiful views of the mountains. It is walking distance from both public and private elementary, intermediate and secondary schools, and a Christian high school. We have a large front yard where neighborhood kids love to play with our golden retriever, Nicholas, and a backyard with Cheryl’s vegetable garden, lots of flowers and fruit trees, a patio for riding a tricycle, and a lawn that we hope will soon have a swing set. And, of course, there’s a sunny, happy bedroom for our baby-to-be. We live in a family-friendly community with so much to do. We’re also less than an hour from southern California beaches, the mountains, and Disneyland.
Our Family
We are lucky to have most of our extended family living within about ten minutes of our home, including John’s parents and grandmother. We have a large loving family including five siblings and their spouses (four future aunts and five future uncles!) and thirteen nieces and nephews. The whole family is very excited about our efforts to adopt and hope to welcome our new baby soon.
Our Puppy, Nicholas – by Nicholas
“Hi! Got biscuits? My name is Nicholas, and I want to tell you about my mom and dad, too. They both love children and dogs. Mom has worked as a literacy volunteer helping people learn to read, and also for Golden Retriever Rescue, helping needy dogs find good homes. My dad loves playing with me, hiking with me, and letting me hang out with him. I have a nice dog bed in the house, a ‘stay at home’ mom who spoils me, and I go for a walk every morning. I love it when the little boy next door comes to play with me. I’m hoping Mom and Dad adopt a little person real soon, they want a baby so much and I want someone to play with. My paws are crossed!”
Education
We strongly value education and lifelong learning. We both attended both public and Christian schools, and both earned college degrees while working full-time. Our education opened up many doors for us. John became a successful executive, which allows both of us (and soon our child) to travel and see other parts of our country and the world. Cheryl’s education helped her have a successful job as manager; she has finished her career to become a full-time mother. Until we adopt, Cheryl is volunteering as a reading tutor at our local library. She can’t wait to help our own child with homework!
Our Lives, Hobbies and Interests
Cheryl is very nurturing, and loves helping people, whether it is through volunteer work or helping John’s grandmother. She loves being with John, spending time with family and friends, cooking, reading and traveling. She likes hiking and taking fitness classes, and enjoys growing fresh fruits and vegetables for her family’s meals.
John loves the great outdoors, hiking in our local mountains and deserts and traveling to learn about new places and things. He enjoys reading, photography, computers, music and movies. He helped design and build both of our homes and is a supportive and loving husband.
All We Need is a Child to Be Complete
We want a family of our own, and need the gift of adoption because of Cheryl’s infertility. We are a healthy, active couple, with so much love to offer: happily married parents, a stable home life, a “stay at home mom”, a large extended family, nearby public and private schools, college education and anything else that will help our child be happy and achieve her dreams. Our child will be the center of our lives.
If these are the things you are hoping to find in an adoptive couple for your child, please contact us. Should you choose us we will be honored and forever grateful. Your child will always know who you are, how we became a family, your kindness and the loving consideration you put into the adoption planning.
We have so much love to offer the child you’re about to give birth to, and would be thrilled to go on this adoptive journey with you.
We look forward to meeting you. If you would like to talk with us please contact your adoption advisor at AdoptHelp toll free at (800) 637-7999.
Love and Best Wishes,
John & Cheryl
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