Choose A Family : Parent Profile
Sandi
Hello,
I am writing this letter almost at a loss for words. I have thought so much about the best way to convey what is on my heart. There is nothing I could say that could match the magnitude of the decision you are making. There is no way I could even begin to say I know the emotions you are feeling. I do know that I have an incredible burden for you in my heart. I also know that at the end of the day, only you can make this difficult choice. I pray that you will have peace with whatever decisions you make for your unborn child. I am humbled that you would consider me as an adoptive parent for your child. You will always have a special place in my heart, home and family. Please know, the sacrifice you are making will never be forgotten.
My Story:
From as far back as I can remember I wanted to be a mom. Interestingly enough, I always felt like I would adopt. As a young adult, I imagined myself as a mother, I just never saw myself pregnant with that child. My heart must have already known what my mind did not – that one day I would adopt that child. Adoption was never a second choice for me – it was always my first choice. I had planned, however, on pursuing adoption within the context of marriage. Unfortunately, a major struggle in my marriage was my husbands’ unwillingness to commit to having a family. We had planned on having a family before we were married, but at some point this plan changed for him. I tried for years to “rationalize” that this was all right, when deep down in my heart I knew it was not. We were separated for two years trying to come to an agreement on this issue before I felt like a choice had to be made. I share this because I want you to know where my heart is. You may wonder why a single female would choose to start a family this way, and the truth is, I cannot see myself NOT making this choice. Today, you are making one of the most important decisions of your life and I think it is important that you know that I too, have made one of the biggest decisions of my life. This decision is one that has led me to you today.
I will always share a special bond with you as the birth mother and will respect your wishes and desire for openness in the future. If you are willing, I will keep my promise to do all I can to maintain this relationship in the event your heart leads you to me.
My Life:
I love spending time with my family and friends. This includes fun weekends on the lake, swimming at the pool, cooking dinner with friends and having game night playoffs on the Wii. I love photography and I photograph everything from my friends, their children, my family, my sweet dog, the flowers in the yard and the world around me. My home is full of pictures of all the special people in my life. I love animals and am the proud parent of a two-year-old “furry child” named GiGi. The two of us live in a quiet cul-de-sac in a popular golf community. There are miles of lighted sidewalks for bikes and walking, a golf course, a neighborhood pool full of children, tennis and basketball courts for games and a great park area with swings and slides to play on! It is a very active community and there are always children and families outside. There are beautiful pathways along the lakes, great spots for fishing and big waterfalls and ponds to toss coins. There are many farms in this area and it is common to see cows, horses and deer. My home is close to great schools (K-12), in fact, I attended these same schools when I was young. Within a few miles are my church, many great restaurants, fun shopping and the homes of most of my close friends. This is convenient for quick get-togethers and makes a fun play date only a phone call away. I think Tennessee is a great place to raise a family! There are mountains, lakes and four full seasons to enjoy them in. My home is close to both - with hiking, biking, snow skiing and water sports all at my back door.
I have been fortunate to have a career in Medical Sales that has allowed me to work from home for the last twelve years. Because of this, I have great flexibility in my day-to-day schedule. This is important because it will easily allow me to stay home with a sick child or make it possible to be present at special school events. The company I work for is very family oriented and provides excellent health insurance and extended leaves of absence for childcare. I plan to stay home with this child for the first four months and, when I begin working from home again, my parents will provide support during the days. There will always be a loving and nurturing environment for your child to learn and explore the world around them. I will make certain that every day is filled with great opportunities.
My Family:
I have a wonderfully close family. They have set an incredible example of how to make memories doing the silliest of things. My parents divorced when I was fairly young, but they have always made great efforts to keep our families close. They both have re-married, giving me two of the most precious stepparents. My family has grown to include brothers, nieces, nephews and cousins that are a blast!
My Mom and Step-dad are so excited about me becoming a mom. I am excited for them because they will be first time Grandparents! Your child will have their undivided attention and love. My parents live on a beautiful farm with barns, a pond, two dogs and a cat. They have lots of land to run and play and wooded areas to hike and explore. They live close to the lake and love to boat on the weekends. We spend a lot of time together on the lake skiing, wakeboarding and inter-tubing. My Grandmother lives on the same property so it is like one-stop shopping for family visits. These family times are seldom quiet, especially when my three cousins, recently adopted from Russia, visit. It is always fun to watch them as they get to experience new “American” things. My parents are already talking about summer beach vacations and weekends spent on the lake with their new Grandchild. This will be the first Great Grandchild for my Grandmother and she is more than ready to start her new role!
My Dad and Step-mom live only a few hours away so we try and visit every few months and talk on the phone weekly. They live on a beautiful lake and have warm weather almost year round. They will be Grandparents for the fourth time so they are quite good at “spoiling!” They are so excited to see me become a mom. My Dad, a musician, is looking forward to teaching his new Grandchild the piano and guitar. He is always the “King of the Grill” at big family cookouts and is known to play a great game of flashlight tag. My step-mom is an incredible artist and she is looking forward to helping me create a “dream room” for your child. Family get-togethers take on a life of there own with 28 of us in all. There are people and children everywhere! When you walk in the back door, you just feel like you are home.
My Friends:
My friends are the people that I share my life with, usually with laughter and lots of practical jokes, and they will be the same families your precious child will grow up to love. I read once that “friends are the best measure of ones success in life” and I couldn’t agree more! I have five of the most wonderful friends in this world and have grown to love them and their families as I do my own. We spend time on the weekends and vacation together, along with their husbands and their wonderful children. To these six children, I am known as either “Aunt Sandi” or “Godmother.” They are all excited about me becoming a Mom and are in support of my decision to adopt. There will be a wonderful group of children ready to play at a moments notice! I am aware that as a single parent, I will need a solid support network, and I believe with my family and friends, I have that in place. I also know it will be important to have strong male role models to support the emotional and developmental needs of a child. The “Grandfather’s”, and my friends’ spouses, are looking forward to this opportunity. After seeing how they are with their own children, I could not think of a better group of men to fill this important role!
The Future:
I am so excited about the possibility of sharing my life with your precious child and hope you are able to get a glimpse of what that life will be like from the following pages. I want you to know my home is warm and happy, and will always be a place of love and encouragement. There will be every opportunity for your child to learn about this world and experience it first hand. Together, we will always celebrate the simple things…and we will always celebrate you!
I wish you courage in the days ahead and am praying for you to have peace with whatever decisions you make for your unborn child. You are doing the most “selfless” thing I could ever imagine another person doing. For you, my heart will always be open. If you would like to see my full profile or speak with me about adopting your child, please contact one of your Adoption Advisor at AdoptHelp, toll-free at 1-800-637-7999.
With Love,
Sandi
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