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Alisa

Dear Birth Mother,
As I sit here and try to write exactly what I feel in my heart for you I must say Thank You. Thank You for allowing me to give you a little insight into my life full of love and laughter. And thank you simply for considering me to be his or her adoptive mom. I can honestly say I do not know the emotions that you are feeling, I do admire your strength as well as the deep love you have for your child. I am very excited to share this journey with you. Whatever you may decide I commend you for your decision to put your child first and want the best for them.

My Story:

I can remember as a little girl always wanting to be a mommy just like my mom. I found out in my mid-twenties that I was not able to have children. I have come to understand that my not being able to have children didn’t mean I could not be a mother. It simply meant I’d have a special family, handpicked out of love. While my “Mr. Right” has not come along, I still see myself following through with my childhood dream of having a family. It is my dream of having a family that has lead me to you. Hopefully together we can support each other in one of the biggest decisions of our lives. I will always share a special bond with you as the birth mother. I will respect your wishes and desires for openness in the future. Most of all, I promise to maintain the relationship should your heart lead you to me.

My family:

I have a very close family consisting of not only my mom, dad and my younger brother but also aunts, uncles, cousins and extended family. My parents were my role models when I was a little girl as they still are today. They have known each other for 47 years and dated for 6 years before getting married. They have been married for 41 years and have been there for me and my brother for everything. My parents grew up across the street from one another, which made going to visit grandparents twice the fun. Whether it was bowling, soccer games, girl scouts, and scrapped knees or just giving a hug and kiss; one of them was always around.

My parents have always been supportive of whatever I did, including my moving from Michigan to Arizona. In fact, they followed me to Arizona 6 years later. They live just 15 minutes away in the same city I do. My brother lives in Texas. He calls weekly and visits whenever possible. The rest of the family is spread across the country with most of them living in Michigan. I go to visit often, but keep in touch via emails, phone calls and letters. Everyone is very excited about adding another member to the family and are a continued support along the way.

Pets are like kids:

I have 2 wonderful dogs that think they are lap dogs. Santana is the older one and the leader of the two. She is very loving of those around her. Layla is the younger one and is the instigator. She’s the one that will steal the food off your plate if you’re not paying attention. Both of them love to be around people and are excellent with kids. They are full of kisses and tails wagging. When given the chance they will crawl into bed with me and take up the whole thing. The kids in the neighborhood always stop to pet the dogs whenever we go for walks.

My friends = Support:

Where do I start? I have friends that have been a part of my life for over 30 years. Through the years we have enjoyed many laughs, jokes, pains, and cries. I am truly blessed to have these friends and also their families as part of my extended family. Most of my friends are married and I am happy to say that I played a part in introducing one of my friends to her spouse. I have watched my friend’s families grow and have the pleasure of being known as Aunt Alise to most of their children. When going back to Michigan, I always spend a day with just the kids to do anything they want to do and often share stories of when their parents were growing up.

As a single parent, I am aware that I will need a solid support network. I believe the friends I surround myself with will be, as they have always been, that network. I also know the importance of having a male role model. I have the support and excitement of not only “Grandpa” and my brother, but my friend’s spouses as well. I couldn’t ask for a stronger group of men to fill such an important role.

I'm Jensen!

My name is Jensen and I can’t wait to be a big brother! I was adopted by my mom in September of 2008 after living with her since I was 5 months old. My mom and my birth family have a great friendship in which I get to see them whenever I want. I’m so excited to share all the things I have learned from Mom like watching Scooby Doo cartoons all the time and having bath time with lots of bubbles. We take walks all the time and Mom taught me how to ride a bike. And the best part; cuddling on the couch and falling asleep in Mom’s arms with the dogs lying right beside us. Mom is home every morning to give me good morning hugs and kisses. She’s there every night to tuck me into bed and tell me she loves me too!

My home (Our home):

I have a cozy 4 bedroom, 2 ½ bathroom house with a huge yard that I purposely bought with children in mind. There’s plenty of room for a swing set and ample space to run around. I live close to the Superstition Mountains, which is a range of mountains in Arizona located east of Phoenix. It’s a popular recreation destination in my area. The house is positioned so that you can see the mountains out of every window in the back of the house.

My Neighborhood:

I live in Queen Creek, a small city in Arizona. It reminds me of where I grew up; in Canton, Michigan. Queen Creek is a community that has a diverse group of people, including those whom have adopted. I live on a cul de sac and everyone keeps an eye on each other. One of the things we get to see living where we do are horseback riders. Riders actually come up to the fence and let the kids pet the horses. We also see people riding their four wheelers as well as families taking a stroll with their dogs. An elementary school is right around the corner from my house and there are many playgrounds throughout the subdivision.

The future:

I am so excited of the possibility of sharing my life with your precious child. I truly hope you are able to get a glimpse of what life will be like from these pages. My home is warm and happy and is always a place of love, laughter, and encouragement. Your child will have every opportunity to experience this world firsthand.

Closing

Thank you again for taking a moment to listen to my story. I am extremely fortunate to have a loving family eager to share in my dreams to be a mother. I am grateful that you are considering me to raise your child. I wish you the courage in the days that follow and peace of mind with the decision you make for yourself and your unborn child.

Sincerely,

Alisa

Another Perspective:

“In regards to my sister Alisa Kozykoski, on my behalf , I would like to say that in my 38 years, the one thing that she wants the most is to have her own family. One of her dreams in life is to be able to provide a loving and caring home. Throughout her life she has been blessed with parents who have taught her the significance of providing this. I can’t say enough about the love that she feels for her two boy s that she has already adopted. Now that she has an opportunity to expand her family, I feel that this would complete her family.” ~ Dana Kozykoski

“Alisa is my boy’s foster mother. She mothered my boys for over 15 months while I received the help I needed to become a better parent for my children. During that time, she did a wonderful job with them and me. She gave my boys the proper manners that only the best kids could have. I could not have asked for a better person to be a mother for my boys. I believe in my heart, she is truly a blessing for us all. My boys love her very much. Since they’ve come home with me, my boys and I still to this day have a great relationship with Alisa. She will always be a part of our lives forever. I am truly grateful for all her help and love she has given our family.” ~ Laurie Lewis

“Alisa takes impossible situations and makes things okay. She loves fearlessly and cares deeply. She doesn’t believe anyone should live without relatives, without a support system or without the security felt from knowing someone cares. So many people walk through life taking their family for granted. This isn’t the case with Alisa. She has a little band of characters she calls family, and they are not only blood relatives. The characters I am referring to include her blood relatives, children, friends, and foster children. She has an intensity to love greater than anyone I have ever met. I admire these qualities. Alisa is my eldest cousin. When I was small, she would give me baths, watch me, and protect me. She never once seemed bothered that I followed her around. I believe she has a deep understanding of what makes a family a family. If I could look through her eyes, I believe I’d see family life as sharing triumphs and failures, hiding shampoo, complaining about empty toothpaste tubes, kissing a boo boo to dry tears, laughter, sharing common colds, defending one another, and intensely loving each other. Call it whatever you like, whoever you are, Alisa would say this makes a family.” ~ Christine Sieg

“Motherhood comes naturally to Alisa. Her desire of being a mother is proven to everyone because of her loving nature and positivity. She speaks nonstop about her other kids. Alisa also plays the role of a second mother to me. When my mom isn’t around, Alisa is always there to tell me what is right from wrong. She is also there when I need someone to talk about everything and anything. Anyone would be very fortunate to have a mother like Alisa.” ~ DeAnna

Tradition & Memories:

Summer vacations to Cedar Point and my grandparent’s house on the lake.
Easter Baskets full of candy. I still get them from my Mom.
My Grandmother baking each one of us our favorite cookies for Christmas.
Christmas Eve with family, which always included extended family.
Decorating the house from top to bottom for all the holidays. I loved Christmas time.
Leaving cookies and milk for Santa while putting up the Christmas tree with my brother.
Birthday dinners with family.
Summer family get togethers. The more family the merrier the time.
Snowmobiling in the coldest part of the winter.
Soccer games with both parent’s cheering me on.
Family bowling nights.
Having friends spend the night on the weekends and watching T.V. all night.
Going to AZ and surprising my grandparents. There was always a ton of us.
Thanksgiving dinners.
Pictures! Pictures!! Pictures!!!
Roller Coasters! The higher and faster they are, the better.
The Tooth Fairy leaving me a quarter when I lost a tooth.
Surprise Parties.
My Dad watching cartoons with us on Saturdays.
Watching the fireworks on the forth of July.
Watching old holiday cartoons/movies like Rudolph, The Year Without a Santa Claus, Santa Claus is Coming to Town.

A few of my favorite things

If you would like to speak with me about adopting your child or have any questions for me, please contact one of our Adoption Advisors at Adopt Help by calling 1-800-637-7999 toll free.

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