Are You Pregnant? : Success Stories
Nicole, Micah and Max
First off I would like to say thank you to my caseworker. They were always there when I needed something or when I just wanted to talk. They respected my wishes and didn't pressure me at all. I know I would have never been able to place the baby if they were not there helping me along the way. I started out choosing a family. I ended up choosing the very first family I called. I know I made the right choice.
I could not have asked for better people. When I was about 6 months pregnant, I moved from Colorado to California to have the baby out there. During this time I got to really know the adoptive family. They sort of became part of my family. I will always consider them my family. I had brought my 18 month old out to California with me also. When the baby was born in September, the family were all there right by my side. My caseworker called me at the hospital to see if I was ok.
That phone call really meant a lot to me. I was always reassured that they cared about not only the baby but about me. Right now I am back in Colorado and doing great. I don't regret anything for a second. I know my decision was the right one and I was lucky to find people like I did at AdoptHelp to get me through it all and feel good in the end.
- Nicole
Hello. My name is Josephine. I am a Birth Mother and I recently placed my baby for adoption.
When I found out that I was four months pregnant, I was devastated. This news, was not good news in my situation. I became instantly confused, angry and scared. I kept repeating to myself "Why me? How could this happen? What will I do?"
After all of the denial, reality set in. I needed to make an important decision. Nobody knew I was pregnant, except my boyfriend and I. I thought aobut terminating the pregnancy. But as soon as that came to mind, I rolled into tears. I could not take a life just to make mine better. You see I have two beautiful children. I could barely meet their needs.
A month went by and I knew I didn't have much time left. I was starting to show and I needed to plan a future for this unborn child and for myself. I was alone one day, going over everything aloud in my mind. Through tears and the unknown, I began to skim through the Yellow Pages. That's when I called AdoptHelp. I spoke to a wonderful lady who knew exactly what I was going through. It felt so good to have someone who had the answers I was looking for.
I decided to place my unborn child for adoption. I knew this was the best option I could make that would most benefit this child to come. I needed to determine whether to have an open or closed adoption. Everyone has different feelings about this subject. Whichever one "you" feel comfortable with, is the right one. I felt that an open adoption would be the best way for me to go. So I decided to select and meet the adoptive parents.
Once I was sure of my decision to place, it was time to pick out the adoptive parents. The first couple I saw, I knew they were the perfect mommy and daddy for this little one to become a part of. Time has now past and I have made it through the healing period. I'm finally meeting some goals I made while I was pregnant. I can honestly say "I did the right thing". I'm happy and I am going on. Most of all I will always remember the joy on my adoptive parents' faces when their dreams of having a child finally came true.
No matter what type of adoption you choose, keep in mind you are not giving up a child. Instead, you are giving a gift! An awesome gift of "Life" to two people who are missing the one thing that only you and I can give.
Dear Friends,
After hearing about adoption as an alternative, I made many calls and interviewed a lot of people, searching for the right place to help me. Eventually, I decided to work with AdoptHelp. They were very caring and sensitive with me and I knew I had found the right place! They even have other birth mothers who have placed their baby for adoption through AdoptHelp on staff.
I chose an adoptive family within a week. I got to know the adoptive parents and developed a special relationship with the mother who is raising my baby. I knew that I made the right decision. If I had any questions or fears, I would always call my caseworker. I requested counseling and was given a choice of counselors. Counseling was especially helpful both before and after the birth of my baby.
Hello. My name is Crystal. I want to start this off by telling you that you are not alone in what you are going through. I too found myself facing an unplanned pregnancy. Alone and scared I would cry myself to sleep at night wondering why and how this could have happened to me. What was I going to do? This only happened to other people.
I thought briefly of ending the pregnancy. But see I’m a mother of a perfect little girl, so the thought of ending this baby’s life was unbearable. That’s when I contacted AdoptHelp. Everyone was so easy to talk to and through them I met the two most wonderful men I know.
Each person will feel very different things when it comes time to decide what kind of adoption they want, open or closed. I chose to go with an open adoption. At the time of me writing this it has only been 2 weeks since I placed my daughter for adoption. I am working through my pain now and working on starting my life over. I still cry a lot, but when I think of the gift I gave these wonderful people it makes it worth it in a way.
The one thing I can tell you and I know this for a fact is it does get better. It stops hurting so much and eventually you stop getting angry for not thinking of your child every single minute of every single day. You begin to remember why you did it and you also stop hating yourself through the pain. I know this because when I was 18 years old (6 years ago) I placed my first born son for adoption.
You have to remind yourself that you are not a bad person. In fact, you are a greater person for taking the bumpy road rather than the smooth and easy one. What you are doing is the most courageous and selfless thing a person can do. Not only are you giving yourself the chance to start over, you’re giving your baby the chance to have the kind of life that you wish you could give them but know you can’t at this point in your life. And last but not least, you are giving two people (or one person) who cannot give themselves the most precious gift, the gift of life ... a Family.
I want you to know I understand what you are going through. I know it’s not easy and even though I don’t know you, I want you to know that you have a friend for life in me. If you ever need to talk or need a shoulder to cry on, I’m only a phone call away. Just call AdoptHelp and they will make sure we get in contact with each other.
Thank you!
Crystal
"After about 12 different websites, I found AdoptHelp. After reading everything the site had to offer, I sat mesmerized by the life one of these couples could provide for my child, the life I knew I couldn't. I will always be thankful for AdoptHelp. They erased my worst fears and helped me make the best out of a hard situation."
- Birthmother-
"I absolutely loved my AdoptHelp caseworker. She was not only my personal guide through adoption, she was my advocate. I will never forget what a special place AdoptHelp is."
- Bithrmother-
"My AdoptHelp case worker became my best friend and my rock. I could call her if I needed anything. She was always there for me."
- Birthmother -
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