We’re sitting down writing this letter to you and trying to find the right words to express what an extraordinary privilege this is for us. Here we are, total strangers with the potential to become forever connected in each other’s lives. The excitement and gratitude we feel, that our greatest wish may come true because of you, is something we want you to know we cherish and consider to be the ultimate gift.

For years we struggled to become parents and were over the moon when we finally welcomed our daughter three years ago. Afterwards though, we were told that carrying another pregnancy would be too dangerous to consider. That’s why we’re beyond grateful for adoption providing us with this very special path. For us, it’s not the ‘how’ that’s important, it’s the beautiful result at the end of it.
It’s obvious that you’re making this choice out of great love and selflessness, and that you’re trying to make the best decision for your child. We hope that by getting to know us through our photos and reading about our lives you’ll feel a connection to us and find comfort in knowing how much we want to share our lives and our love with your child. We plan to do everything possible to ensure your baby has a life you will be unbelievably proud of. We, along with our daughter, parents, siblings, nieces and nephews, and more cousins than we can count, are all eagerly waiting with open arms to welcome the newest member of our family.

Thank you so much for taking the time to learn about us and our family and considering us as parents.

Sincerely,
Adam & Kay

We met one very random day in the salad section at our local grocery store. Or as Adam likes to call it, the last place he ever thought he’d ask a woman for a phone number. We’d seen each other a few times before, were clearly drawn to each other, but on that day, we finally worked up the courage to talk to each other. We like to say it was love at first sight, or at least within those first few seconds of talking. Two days later, we went on our first date. Two years after that, we were married at Adam’s uncle’s house in St. Helena, California surrounded by our closest friends and family. Eight years after that, here we are, closer than ever. All because of one chance encounter. We’re hoping that fate now plays another part for us. Finding and welcoming another baby into our home and completing the family we’ve been dreaming about.

I am a middle eastern immigrant raised in rural southeastern Ohio with two older sisters and a younger brother. Growing up I was lucky to be part of two distinct cultures where I spoke two different languages and lived in two seemingly different worlds, but I learned to embrace and celebrate the two sides of myself. I grew up in a small but tight knit community and am still close with friends that I’ve known since I was in grade school. We were always at each other’s houses and each of our parents were like second moms and dads to all of us. I was active in school, sports, and my community. I moved to Los Angeles 16 years ago and have created a close and supportive community full of wonderful friends, co-workers and family that help make this city feel more like the small town that I grew up in.

WORK LIFE: I have worked really hard and am in a great place professionally. I am an entertainment lawyer and work for the production company that makes fun TV shows like American Idol, America’s Got Talent, Family Feud and The Price is Right! I am very lucky that I can do my job from most anywhere which gives me a lot of flexibility and time to spend with my daughter. I’m so grateful that I can participate in activities like taking her to music or art class and getting home in time to give her a bath and read books before putting her to bed.

As I’m writing this, my daughter’s just woken up and I can hear Kay in her room getting her up for the day. They’re goofing around. Laughing and playing. Reading books before coming down for breakfast. This isn’t just something that happens here and there. It’s every morning. This immense joy that wakes up our entire house, and it’s all because of Kay. That’s her in a nutshell. She is the greatest mother and the greatest person I could imagine. On the one hand, she’ll make you laugh like you’ve never laughed before, and on the other, she’s so incredibly smart, you’ll have learned five things within a minute of talking to her and not even know you did. It’s this combination I fell in love with, and yet there’s so much more. I have honestly never met a person who has as much empathy for other human beings as she does. Kay is constantly working to make this world a better place. Not just with a couple random posts on social media, but actively doing things that make an actual difference, especially when it comes to helping kids. I honestly don’t know how I got so lucky but I do think about it all the time. And I count my lucky stars. We fit like a perfect puzzle. And somehow, I managed to marry the greatest person in the world who I could spend the next 100 years with and never not be amazed by her for a second.

I was born and raised in Long Island, New York with a younger brother and two amazing parents. They divorced when I was young but made sure our home life was as normal as possible and that we saw each of them equally. It’s something that always stuck with me. How important parenting and being present really was to them. Strangely, I think it took divorce to make me realize just how lucky I was. Education was important in our family, but so were sports and music and backyard barbeques and helping out in the community. Growing up I got a bunch of all of that. I was also lucky to have a super close group of friends throughout grade school and high school who I’m still close with today. Having 30+ year friendships is an amazing thing. These guys are like my brothers and we’ve done just about everything together. It’s something I’ll cherish forever.

WORK LIFE: I am a writer for film and television and have worked incredibly hard to get where I am. I’ve written for television shows like ‘The Blacklist’ and ‘Twelve Monkeys’ and have written movies like ‘The Return’ with Sarah Michelle Gellar. Luckily, I was able to turn this dream of writing into an actual career. It’s been quite a ride. I work mostly from home so just as importantly, it allows me to see my daughter a lot which is fantastic. What’s better than taking a break from your job and being able to pop into the next room and see your kiddo going about their day. It’s the greatest thing on earth.

Adam is my favorite person in the world! Although we’re seemingly opposites - he’s mellow and quiet and more introverted - I like to think I bring out his fun, goofy, adventurous side. He is loved by everyone who knows him because he’s a kind and gentle soul with the warmest smile and the sweetest brown eyes. He’s brilliant and always researching a new script idea or ready with an interesting fact or bit of trivia (or corny dad joke!). He’s hilarious and no one makes me laugh harder than him. He is a hard worker and would do anything for his family. He is the most incredible dad who cherishes his daughter and takes the time to really talk to her and teach her. He gets down on the ground to play with her or curls up on the couch to read to her. He loves to play her his favorite old school music, and despite my best efforts to turn her into an 80s music fan, she insists on listening to “Daddy’s music”. He encourages and supports her interests (currently spaceships and polar bears) and is so proud of her accomplishments. Watching them together brings me so much joy and he would shower his love on another child in the exact same way.

Our daughter, Viv, is the absolute joy of our lives. She just turned 3 and is a smart, happy, energetic, funny, loving little girl who loves books, animals (especially ponies and her dogs), singing silly songs and dancing. She’s also very caring and nurturing and takes really good care of her dolls and stuffed animals and is always ready with a band aid or a hug or kiss to heal their boo boos. Nothing makes us prouder than when someone tells us that our daughter seems so happy and confident. She will be an incredible big sister!

Kay is Kurdish and Adam is Jewish. Our cultures are very important to us and play an important part in our lives. We embrace and celebrate our differences and diversity and are passing on our individual traditions and customs to our daughter while also creating our own family traditions. As a family, we love to travel whether it’s a local or far away destination. Adam and I have been lucky to travel to many different countries and incredible places and knew we wanted to do the same when we had our family. We love to explore new places with Viv who is a great travel buddy. She’s been to Hawaii, New York City, Colorado, Key West, and all over both northern and southern California. We’re huge fans of national parks and had the joy of taking her on her first trip to Yosemite in November. We’re all big readers and we’re particularly proud that Viv loves to read and treasures her books. We like to cook together and Viv loves to help and be part of it all. Adam is the breakfast king and his specialty is omelets on the weekends. Kay is more into making pizzas with Viv on Friday nights, and we all love picnics in the backyard, growing our little vegetable garden, flying kites at the beach, hiking the trails near our house, and taking our dogs for walks in our neighborhood. Our favorite tradition with our daughter is taking a bath and talking about which books we’re going to read before bedtime then snuggling up in her tent to read and cuddle before we sing Twinkle Twinkle and lay down for bed.

Our families mean everything to us, and we are both still very close to our childhood friends as well as ones we met in college and beyond. We are so fortunate that our parents are healthy and the best grandparents any child could hope for. Kay has 2 older sisters and a younger brother and 7 nieces and nephews. Adam has two younger brothers and a niece and nephew. Between us we have a huge extended family full of aunties and uncles and so many cousins who are more like good friends. We both love having big extended families and make a point of getting together with them as often as we can. One of our favorite things to do is get together with our family and friends for dinners, vacations, holidays and other celebrations. Kay’s mom (who we call Daya) and sisters usually cook enough food to feed an army! Adam’s parents are just an easy drive away and live on a beautiful farm with a special garden and baby goats for the grandkids to play with! We also have two dogs who are our daughter’s best puppy pals! Both of our families are blended and diverse. Our daughter has Black, Mexican, Puerto Rican, Asian, White, Jewish, and Middle Eastern cousins. We celebrate diversity and all different races, ethnicities, and cultures that make up our family and community. We are so lucky to have such a wonderful group of loving and supportive family and friends who live close by, most of whom have kids, and are an incredible “village” that helps us raise our daughter. They are so excited for us to become parents again and will welcome your child unconditionally and will fill his or her life with so much love and laughter and fun and adventure.

We live in a beautiful, warm and welcoming home in Southern California on a safe and quiet street. We have four bedrooms, a bright open kitchen and a beautiful backyard that has lots of room for our daughter to run and play. It’s such a peaceful setting surrounded by lots of greenery with trees, plants, and flowers all around. Our neighbors are the kind of people who check in to make sure you’re doing ok, and many are raising their own families. We’re also 5 minutes away from one of the top-rated public elementary schools in Los Angeles. We are lucky to be close to lots of great restaurants, shops, an incredible farmer’s market, and plenty of activities for kids, including a bunch of lovely parks and hiking trails. While we enjoy living in the city, we also love to be out in nature and are fortunate to be within easy reach of fantastic beaches, snowcapped mountains, and incredible national parks like Yosemite and Sequoia. We love our house and our neighborhood and feel that it’s the perfect place to raise a family.

If you decide to choose us as adopting parents for your child, we promise you that we will love your child unconditionally and dedicate our lives to providing him or her with a lifetime of kindness, support, strong guidance and encouragement in all they do. Your child will be surrounded by warmth and compassion and learn the value of hard work and striving to achieve their goals and being kind and inclusive to all. We can’t wait for you to see how loved and adored your child is and we hope to have a warm and open relationship with you. We promise to teach your child about the courageous decision you made and the beautiful gift you gave to us. We will teach your child about his or her beginnings, about who they are, where they come from, and they will know you. We will always speak positively about you and the love that you have for them. We would love to have an ongoing relationship with you so that they can know you and you can see them growing up and thriving. We know that you will be entrusting your child to us and we promise we will not let you down.

Our entire family, from our daughter Viv (an eager big sister), to grandparents, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews and all the cousins, are so excited to welcome a new member to our family. Thank you for taking the time to learn about us, our lives, and our family.

We are thankful that you took this time to learn about us. If you choose us, we will be proud and grateful beyond measure. We can promise you that we will welcome your child into our home and lives with wide open arms, love your child with our whole hearts, and will dedicate ourselves to raising them to be the happiest person imaginable.

With thanks,
Kay, Adam & Viv