Dear Birth Mother
Thank you so much for taking the time to look at our profile. Making the decision to create an adoption plan is an exceptional act of love for your child. We respect and admire your courage and love, and we would be honored if we get the chance to get to know you throughout this journey. We always knew that we wanted to expand our family, because we have so much love to give. Jim is an experienced father to his daughter, Kaitlyn, and Candace is an experienced stepmother. We have shared so much happiness watching Kaitlyn grow up into a caring, kind, and creative person. When we found out that we could not add to our family biologically, we naturally turned to adoption. We understand that your adoption plan decision is full of your hopes and dreams for your baby. We promise that we will offer your child a happy, caring, loving, safe, stable, and supportive family environment. Your child will also grow up in our home learning to love and respect you for caring so much about them.
Our dating story began like a modern Cinderella story. Jim’s friend introduced Candace to Jim. Jim stood up and kissed Candace’s hand, like any young prince might do for a princess. Then one of Jim’s friend’s spilled a drink into Candace’s shoe. Jim got napkins, removed her shoe, and helped her clean it. We have been inseparable ever since, celebrating more than 12 happy years of marriage. We love spending time together, and we laugh a lot. We enjoy going to the movies, and we even got married in a movie theater event space. We often get creative making up soup recipes during cold winter nights. Jim often plays DJ, making playlists of songs for us to listen to. (Classics from the 80s and the 60s are often featured!) We have shared many adventures traveling across the United States, Canada, Mexico, Europe, and Asia. We are also passionate about Broadway theater, and we go to see shows when possible. Some of our happiest times have been going on outings with Kaitlyn as she was growing up, visiting local fairs, parks, and family dinners. We love spending time with family, and we visit with them regularly in Canada.
5 Important Values we will teach our future child:
- To be yourself
- To love yourself
- To treat others with kindness and respect
- To chase dreams and take risks
- To always remember no matter what, tomorrow is another day…
I grew up in Toronto, Canada in a family with two older sisters, Rose and Linda, and an older brother, Norman. As the youngest of the family, my sisters always spoiled me. As a kid in school, I was a fast sprinter, and collected many medals from track team meets. After school I was always found playing hockey with friends. I work as a Technical Support Analyst providing computer support. My work schedule allows me to have a three-and-a-half-day weekend each week. This gives me a lot of opportunity to spend quality time daily with our future child. My daughter Kaitlyn is now grown up, and I cherish all of our time together. Kaitlyn loves children, and she is really looking forward to having a sibling join the family!
The Scoop About Me:
- I love Star Wars
- I am a military history buff
- I am a big hockey fan
- I cannot use chopsticks very well
- I can speak Cantonese
About Jim, From Candace:
Jim is fun, friendly, and incredibly kind. He is energetic and extremely thoughtful and caring. He is such a kind soul, and I feel so lucky to have him in my life. I most admire how great a father he is to his daughter, Kailtyn, and how well he treats my parents. I first knew that I loved him after watching him spend time playing with Kaitlyn. Jim is incredibly creative, and he knows how to make anything into a game. A simple drive across town with Jim can become a competition to spot the most dogs. He is tirelessly patient with children, and he enjoys playtime as much as the children around him. I would not change anything about Jim- he is simply the best person I know.
I grew up in Montreal, Canada. I have one older sister, Stacey. As a young child I loved to read books and write. I studied to become a teacher of English to English Language Learners, and I taught in high schools in Japan for two years. I completed a Ph.D. and I am now a university Professor in Education. I love my job – I read a lot, teach, and publish my writing. I often work from home, and I get many weeks of vacation during winter and summer breaks. This gives me so much time to enjoy caring for our future child.
Spilling the T About Me:
- I grew up in a French-speaking city
- I have studied many languages (at least a little bit) , including French, German, Spanish, Russian, and Japanese
- My favorite writer is Stephen King
- Even though I get bad dreams, I love watching scary movies
- I have lived in Canada, the United States, Japan, and Germany
About Candace, From Jim:
Candace is an exceptionally caring and loyal partner. I love how she always makes me feel special by the little things that she does, like kiss my shoulder or cook a favorite meal. (Her Greek chicken and her “nothing” soup are big hits at home!) I really admire how much Candace goes out of her way to help others; her selflessness is rare. Candace would not think that she is courageous, but I am amazed at how she has traveled and lived around the world, navigating through different cultures and languages. I also don’t think that I would have dared to travel the world without her. She opened my eyes to world experiences beyond my imagination. Most of all, I am grateful for the love and care over the years that she has always given to my daughter, Kaitlyn.
Our Friends & Family
Jim’s Family: Losing both of my parents has been very difficult for me. I am grateful for the guidance of my older sisters, Rose and Linda. I chat with my sisters often and text with them every week. My in-laws, Joe and Neile, have also stepped in to help me to fill the parent role. We make sure to go back home to visit as often as possible to share meals and laughs with my sisters. As a family, Candace, Kaitlyn, and I have so many happy memories together, playing games and going on outings.
Candace’s Family: My parents, Neile and Joe, often call each other their best friends, and they have served as role models for our own marriage. I have always been very close with my parents and my sister, Stacey. They have been my greatest source of support throughout my life. I have loved every minute of participating in Kaitlyn’s life as a stepmother. I also chat with my niece, Ilana, and my nephew, Shane every week, and I thoroughly enjoy sharing laughs with them and helping with their homework. My grandmother (my mother’s mother, Ida) grew up in an orphanage. She taught me to value education and to do anything to support children’s needs. My aunt, Marlene, has been a second mother participating in my life. Her son, my younger cousin Ilan, was born with a disease that made him very sick. We grew up together like brother and sister, and I honor his memory every day. Even though my family lives in Montreal, we keep in touch so tightly through phone and Facetime, my aunt tells me each time we visit that “it is just like you never left.”
Our Home & Community
We live in a great family-oriented neighborhood in Kansas City, Missouri, with 100 -year-old houses and tons of children. We love decorating our house for Halloween and giving out candy. No matter how much candy we buy each year, we always run out after the first hour because of the number of costumed children coming by! There are many parks and some great schools near our house. A shopping district is located less than a ten-minute walk from our house that includes a toy store, a children’s clothing and accessories store, and an ice cream shop. The Kansas City area includes a children’s theater, a zoo, a science center, an aquarium, and museums. Kansas City has all of the excitement of a big city with a friendly, slower pace. This is the perfect place to raise children and create many happy family memories!
We Promise that:
- We will love your child unconditionally and help your baby to chase dreams and grow into a confident and independent person.
- Life in our home will be full of kisses and hugs, laughter and joy, music, bedtime stories and attention on education, regular trips to museums, the science center, the zoo, the aquarium, bookstores, vacations, and holiday traditions.
- Your child will always have all of their needs met for love, affection, education, or possessions.
In Closing & Final Thoughts
Thank you so much for reading our profile and for giving us the chance to tell your more about ourselves, We are unspeakably in awe of you as a birth mother who has the courage and great love, wisdom, and selflessness to create an adoption plan for your child.