April 22nd, 2018
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Chris and Jen


Dear Birth Mother

Hello! We are Chris and Jen!

We have been married for eight years, and together for ten. We met through a mutual friend one month before Chris’ first deployment with the Air Force. This gave us a unique opportunity to get to know each other through daily emails, cards, and one phone call a week.  We have been together ever since! As a military family, we feel very fortunate for the job security and opportunities Chris’ career has provided for us. We have two sons: Paxton is 4, and Camden is 3, and a dog named Lola Mae. We have lived in the Midwest, the South, the Northeast, and now we are so lucky to live in Hawaii. We make the best of wherever we go, and we love getting to know new people and to experience new cultures.

Thank you for taking the time to learn more about our family. We could never properly express our gratitude and our admiration of you into words. Although we do not know you yet, we know that you must be exceptionally strong and loving to be considering adoption for your child. We would be honored to take this journey of adoption with you. We hope learning more about us gives you comfort and peace of mind when planning your child’s future.

Our Adoption Story

Our plan for adoption began 5 years ago. After years of failed fertility treatments, we decided to research adoption. Once we began the process, we experienced such a feeling of purpose in our life beyond our own wants. We wanted to be the answer to a birth mother’s prayers as much as a child was an answer to ours. As we began the adoption process, we were surprised with the pregnancy of our first son. While we were overjoyed by the pregnancy, we still felt a calling to adopt one day. We were blessed to have another son, and then miscarried our third child in second trimester. We learned that Jen would no longer be able to carry another baby to term. Our journey to create a family has been filled with ups and downs, but it is in those moments of great love and loss that has strengthened our desire to adopt.   We have so much more love and laughter to share, and we are excited to add to our family through adoption.

Meet Jen through Chris’ Eyes

I fell in love with Jen because she is so out-going, loyal, and has a great sense of humor. She constantly encourages me to try new things and pushes me to be a better person. One of our favorite things to do is be active together. We hiked up Koko Head on Oahu, and it wasn’t easy but it was such an awesome experience with her. Not only has she made me experience life through adventures, but she has strengthened my faith and keeps me grounded on what’s important in my life. I truly couldn’t imagine a better person to walk beside me in this world, or a better mother for our sons. She is such a nurturing mother and she amazes me with all that she gets done in a day. She is very organized and creative. She is constantly coming up with fun games to play with the boys. At meal time, she asks our boys what their favorite thing they did that day, if anything made them sad, and if they tried anything new. She is such an encouraging mom that Paxton is proud to say he failed at something because he knows she will tell him to keep trying. She tells the boys she loves them a least a dozen times a day, and our boys go to bed knowing they are so loved.  I know she can’t wait to rock another baby to sleep while singing lullabies.

Meet Chris through Jen’s Eyes

I knew Chris was a keeper the day he agreed to go rollerblading with me. He wasn’t that graceful, but he didn’t complain and he tried hard to keep on smiling. As I watched him soar into a muddy stream, I thought now there is a man who goes beyond himself to make others happy. I realized he would be a great father when I watched him play with my nieces. He was so patient and caring with them. Ten years later, and those qualities still hold true! I love Chris because he is funny, laid back, and a hard worker, but mostly I love him for all the little things he does that make my life amazing. We have learned the importance of appreciating all the little things, and the power of saying thank you. I am so thankful he remembers to leave a light on for me at night, he leaves the last piece of chocolate for me, and he sends me a message every day to ask how my morning is going. I appreciate how considerate he is, but most importantly I love watching him be a dad. Everyone wants to feel special, and he looks at our boys like they are extraordinary and they feel that. He is respectful to what they say, and he appreciates what their little minds come up with. Even after a grueling day of work, he will play with them for hours. His family is his first priority, and I hope my boys grow up to follow his example. He is excited to have another child to get to love, nurture their dreams, and laugh with.



Meet our Boys

Paxton is always described as the kid with the biggest heart! He is always there to kiss booboos away, give a hug to cheer you up, or make his funny faces to make you laugh. We think it is these qualities that make him an excellent big brother. He is always making sure Camden has him favorite toy or drink cup.  When Jen told him that she was sad because he was getting too big to sit on her lap, he responded that he will never be too big to hug. Right now he loves learning about outer space, playing with airplanes, and playing on the playground with his best buddies.

Camden is a funny and curious boy, who is full of personality.  He has an infectious smile and loves to make people happy. We were at a friend’s house, and their baby was being fussy. Camden bent down and gave the baby the only thing he had…a rock. While that might not be the most baby-friendly toy, it is a big deal for a 3-year-old to give up a perfectly smooth rock that he had been carrying around for two hours. He loves babies, and I’m so excited to see him grow into the big brother role. He loves to play with anything with wheels, look at books, and to play hide and seek.

Our Dog, Lola Mae

We rescued Lola Mae when Jen was three months pregnant with Paxton, so she has grown up with babies around her. She loves people, and instantly thinks that everyone should love her. She has gone through multiple obedience training, and the boys love giving her treats for doing her tricks. She is fantastic with children.  We take Lola Mae for walks almost every night as a family. Lola Mae loves to get out and greet the neighbors, and we love getting that family time in.

Home Sweet Home

We live in a five-bedroom home on a quiet cul-de-sac on the island of Oahu. The bedroom on the main level has been turned into the boys’ toy room. They love having their own space to build tall towers, put together their train set, or pretend to have an ice cream store.  We have a fenced in backyard that our boys love to explore. We have a sandbox, a playhouse, and lots of toys with wheels. On hot days when the baby pool isn’t enough, we set up our bounce house with a water slide. We are lucky to have several lime trees, an avocado tree, and even sugar cane growing along with our potted garden of herbs, fruits, and vegetables. The boys love to pick the fresh strawberries and blueberries!

5 Things We Love About our Neighborhood:

  • It has a secured playground, basketball courts, tennis courts and a large field for running.
  • It is minutes from two beautiful beaches. Our favorite is the lagoons!
  • It is a 10-minute drive to the YMCA where the boys participate in several programs.
  • It is close to our favorite ice cream shop for frosty treats.
  • It is very diverse with many ethnicities.

Our Faith

We both grew up in Christian homes, and attended Christian schools. Our faith has been an important part of our lives, and we plan to raise our children with the morals and values our parents showed us. We want them to be kind-hearted, forgiving, and open-minded. Going to church and then out to eat on Sunday is an important part of family time for us.

Family Traditions

Our household is full of family traditions, and I feel like we just keep adding more as the years go by. This year we started dyeing Easter eggs. We had a lot of cracked eggs, but the smiles are always worth the mess. Every fall we go to a pumpkin patch and let the boys pick their own pumpkin.  At Christmas time, we all decorate the Christmas tree. We have collected ornaments from all the places we have traveled and from special events in our life. As we decorate the tree, we talk about what each ornament represents. We are looking forward to adding new ornaments that represent all aspects of your child’s life, and getting to tell their story every year.


Meet Our Family

Everyone is so excited to add another member to the family. We are so blessed to have such supportive family. While we don’t live close to our families, we talk to them all the time and take extended vacations to spend time with them. Our boys love to FaceTime with everyone. We love that our boys know exactly who is on the phone, just by the sound of the “hello” on the other end of the line.

Our Life as Parents

Our parenting philosophy is to live as a good example for our children. We strive to provide encouragement for them to try new things and dream big. It is our job to teach, show and nurture them.  We love to travel with our boys and have them explore new places. We find the best way to learn about something is to experience it. In the last year Paxton wanted to be an astronaut, pilot, and a doctor, and we support each one of these dreams by providing information and life experiences. In the last year, we have checked out almost 400 library books on topics from sharing to the solar system.

Having children is a privilege that we share the responsibilities of. We cook dinner together almost every night and eat as a family. Jen loves creative play, whereas Chris loves any outdoor play from soccer to water balloons. Jen reads the boys books at naptime, and Chris reads the bedtime stories. We both tuck our boys into bed every night. At the end of the day, no matter what their talents or passions are, no matter what arguments or struggles we have, no matter what trials lie ahead, as parents we want them to know they are loved and supported.

Work Life

Jen: I worked in the Women, Infant and Children Nutrition Program (WIC) as my first job as a dietitian, which provided me with experience with infant and child nutrition especially dealing with specialized needs. I taught classes on how to make baby food, and then made our boys’ baby food and plan to do the same once we adopt. I have also worked as a dietitian for a supermarket chain and in a hospital. Now am doing my dream job as a stay-at-home mom. I cherish the little moments throughout the day of snuggles to impromptu dance parties.

Chris: I am currently in my 13th year of active duty service in the Air Force as a Navigator.  I’ve been fortunate to achieve the rank of Major and am up for promotion to Lieutenant Colonel next year.  Living the military life has been rewarding, and I have been able to focus on keeping my family first priority.  My current job allows me to get home every night for family dinners and offers more than enough opportunity for days off, even at short notice!  The Air Force allows for 2 weeks of paternity leave to help with the demands of welcoming a new baby into the family.  The military has proven to be great job security for me and, more importantly, my family.


Our Final Thoughts

Given the opportunity, we promise to provide your child with the support of a loving family, the encouragement and opportunity to follow their dreams, and a life full of adventure and laughter. We are willing to support any level of openness that you need during this process and for the following years to come. We wish you the best in the future.

If you have any questions for us or are interested in us adopting your child, please contact your AdoptHelp caseworker at 1-800-637-7999 toll free.

With Gratitude,

Chris, Jen, Paxton, Camden