We are Jeff and Cathy, from California!
First and foremost, we want you to know how much we admire your strength, courage, selflessness and the love you have for your child. We can’t begin to imagine what you must be going through at this time, and we realize what an important decision this is. We are so excited for the opportunity to adopt, and to have the blessing of a child. We have so much love we want to share with them, and are ready to show them all the beauty life has to offer.
As A Couple
We worked together for 6 years prior to dating. As the years went on and we began to spend more time together (and realized we’d both had crushes on each other!), we threw caution to the wind and started dating in 2010. Our early dating life was full of excitement, filled with bike rides, beach days, kayak adventures, trips to Disneyland, and just curling up on the couch with a good movie. As our connection grew deeper, we shared our hopes and dreams for the future, which included marriage and children. In 2012, we had the wedding of our dreams, surrounded by all of our loved ones. Although the struggle to grow our family has been difficult, it has brought us closer together, strengthened our communication, and helped us to grow as a couple. Going through this has also made it clear to us what a beautiful gift adoption is, and we’re so excited to be on this journey.
About Cathy (by Jeff)
One of the many things I love about Cathy is her compassionate and sensitive nature. She always finds the best in people, and is quick to brighten their day with her kindness. Cathy has an absolutely contagious smile and laugh, so much so that her coworkers gave her the nickname “Happy.” This has been such a beautiful influence in my life, as she’s always there to remind me that, no matter how stressful a situation is, life is good, and the best way to get through it is with positivity. Someone told me once that you can learn a lot about a person by seeing how children relate to them, and to watch Cathy with kids lets you see immediately what an amazing person she is. Our nieces and nephews are completely drawn to her. She has a natural way of understanding what they want and need, and I love watching them together. I’ve been so happy to have her by my side, and I’m so excited to see her become the mom to our kids.
About Jeff (by Cathy)
What first attracted me to Jeff was his knowledge and work ethic. Since we met through work, I was able to see him in that environment first. He was always eager to take on new challenges, and was willing to teach others to help them grow. I thought to myself, “Wow, this guy is really switched on, patient… and cute!” Needless to say, I started finding myself paying closer attention to him. I completely melted with how sweet, sensitive, and loving he is. He makes me feel so safe and secure. He is not afraid to show his love for me, or any of our loved ones (including our cat Ernie!). He loves spending time with out nieces and nephews, and our friends’ kids, and they love hanging out with him, too! When we talk about our future children and the hopes and dreams we have for them, I see the excitement in his eyes. It makes me so unbelievably emotional, happy and proud at what a great man he is! I truly can’t wait to see what an amazing Dad he will be.
Careers, Hobbies & Interests
Cathy works in the entertainment industry, digitally restoring classic films. As much as she enjoys her work, she is even more excited about becoming a stay at home mom once the baby comes. We both grew up with stay at home moms, and look forward to providing that same loving environment for our children.
Cathy’s Hobbies & Interests:
– beach days
– exploring new places, both near and far
– reading; fiction, mysteries, biographies… it’s so fun to get lost in a good book
– listening to music and going to concerts
– working on creative craft projects
Jeff works in the entertainment industry, as well. He’s worked hard to become a Feature Colorist, where he works closely with each movie’s creative to bring their vision of the movie to life through color. He loves being able to make a living by blending his creativity with his technical background.
Jeff’s Hobbies & Interests:
– outdoor activities; hiking, biking, and swimming
– spending time at the beach
– love all things cars… muscle cars are his favorite
– tinkering on projects in his workshop
– grilling, either at home or camping, is always fun
Home Sweet Home
We live in Ventura County, in Southern California. We recently purchased our dream home to raise children in. Our city has been rated as one of the safest cities in the state, and is full of fun activities. Our neighborhood is known around town for its “big” holiday decorations. It’s so much fun! For Halloween, our houses are transformed with ghouls and goblins, and the streets are fogged with smoke. Parents from all around the area dress up with their kids and bring them to our neighborhood to enjoy the festivities. We had over 300 trick-or-treaters last year! Christmas is also big. The streets are filled with lights and decorations that draw visitors from all around town. Inside, we transform the house into what Cathy likes to call “Winter Wonderland,” filled with trees & ornaments, lights & decor, and everything else needed to add that extra holiday warmth. We’re tucked in the hills about 30 minutes from the beach, and 2 hours from snow resorts, lakes, and mountains. We’re within walking distance of beautiful neighborhood parks, hiking trails, and bridle paths to explore. Speaking of which, some our more “unusual” neighbors are chickens, goats, and horses. It’s living in the suburbs, with a little bit of country fun!
The Special People In Our Life
Cathy grew up the youngest of five. With a fourteen year age gap between her and her oldest sibling, she also grew up close with her nephews and nieces. In total, she has 14 nephews and nieces, four great nieces, and another on the way. Her parents were happily married for 46 years when unfortunately her dad passed away. Their relationship had always been a great example to her of what it meant to have a loving marriage and a strong family. Jeff is the oldest of two. His younger sister and brother-in-law have a 3-year-old daughter, and a brand new baby boy. We’re so excited for our kids to be at an age where they can grow up close with their cousins. His parents have been happily married for 40 years, and being that they live less than 5 minutes away, they’re looking forward to spending lots of time with their grandkids.
Having both grown up going to church has given us a strong faith base, and has instilled in us values, beautiful traditions, and a sense of community. It has given us opportunities to give back, and we enjoy being able to volunteer and help throughout the year. It’s such a rewarding feeling to know we can be there for someone, just as they would be there for us.
Our Furry Friend
We have a cat named Ernie. He actually “chose” Cathy before we began dating. She instantly fell in love with the tiny kitten who had somehow made his way into her garage. Once we began seriously dating, and had a few lessons on what a cat owner needs to remember (like don’t leave your chicken unattended on the counter!), Ernie and Jeff bonded as well.
Our Life As Parents
We believe in honesty, respect, and valuing bonds with loved ones. Your child will always be surrounded by love. Our goal is to raise a child to have integrity, be loving, down-to-earth and well-rounded. We will do that by providing the tools and opportunities they need to reach their full potential, teaching the importance of education, and creating a nurturing environment where they feel safe and encouraged to follow their dreams and achieve a fulfilling life.
Our Promise to You:
Your child will be…
– loved unconditionally, with lots of hugs, kisses and “I Love You’s
– encouraged to enjoy all things in life, both big and small
– taught the importance of education and hard work, and to have the ambition to pursue their goals.
– given the opportunities to explore their individuality and to follow the path they choose.
A Special Message to You
Thank you so much for taking the time to read our letter, and for getting to know us. But most of all, thank you for possibly considering us to raise your child. We are so ready to be parents, and this is so important and special to us. We want you to know we truly would feel honored if we are chosen. We will make sure to share the story of love through adoption, because that is what brought us together.