DEAR BIRTH MOTHER:
Hi! We are Jeff and Stephanie from North Alabama. We have been praying for you and your child for quite some time. Thank you for taking the time to read our profile in hopes of getting to know us better.
We cannot imagine what you are feeling and going through right now. Your abundant love for your child, selflessness, and courage are admirable. Words cannot express our appreciation for your consideration of our family to be chosen to provide a loving home for your child. If you decide to choose us, we can promise you that your child will be surrounded by family, friends and faith throughout their life. You can be confident that you are placing your child in the loving arms of two people that are craving the opportunity to become parents and commit to raising your child with unconditional love.
We are looking forward to meeting you and giving you as much support as we can during this entire process.
GETTING TO KNOW US
Jeff and Stephanie met at the barbeque of a mutual co-worker. We were quickly attracted to one another’s positive attitude and outlook on life. After nine months of dating, Jeff proposed. We spent a year planning our wedding and preparing for our marriage. We are in our thirteenth year of marriage. Walks with Lady, traveling, listening to music, attending live events, spending time with family, and learning about the area in which we live are among our favorite things to do together. Whether running errands or attending an event, Jeff and Stephanie simply love being together. Many people tell us we are each other’s perfect complement. Jeff’s weaknesses are Stephanie’s strengths and Stephanie’s weaknesses are Jeff strengths.
Although we cannot have biological children, our thoughts and experiences regarding adoption have always been positive and encouraging. Stephanie does not know her biological father and was adopted by her Dad when she was four-years-old. One of Jeff’s best childhood friends was adopted and so were a couple of his family members. These families showed us there should be no difference in raising a biological or adopted child. All children deserve unconditional love and a happy childhood. We believe these experiences will help us share our child’s adoption story openly and honestly all along the way.
THROUGH JEFF’S EYES
Stephanie is the most caring, honest, trustworthy and spirit-filled person I have met in my life. She has dedicated her life to helping others, especially children, through her interactions as a teacher, aunt and cousin. As a student, Stephanie studied childhood education and stages of learning while earning four degrees, most recently her specialist in curriculum and instruction. This background in child development has laid the groundwork for understanding and enriching the lives of children. Her passion for others, especially children, was the trait that most attracted me to her.
Stephanie is the best life partner for me. Her smile lights up a room and she has the uncanny ability to convey a feeling of warmth and acceptance to everyone she meets. She loves me unconditionally and continues to support me through our good and bad times. As a college coach, my life can ebb and flow with the wins and losses but Stephanie is always there with a hug and a smile; win or lose. She models a positive attitude and an even keeled personality that will serve well in her new role as a mother. Stephanie is the love of my life and I know she will raise our baby with lots of love and care.
Stephanie is great with kids. She loves to spend time with her nieces, nephews and cousins, who range in age from 2 to 20. She has been through everything with them, from diapers to high school graduations, music concerts and tennis matches. They always want her to be there to cheer them on or sit quietly and enjoy the performance. Aunt Stephanie’s presence is often requested and she always grants the wish.
Stephanie has an impact on all who know her. Last year, some of her students spent time after their graduation to pose for a group picture and sent it to her, thanking her for teaching them and for a great year. She has been invited to past students’ college graduations, weddings and family gatherings. Stephanie lives an impactful life and I am proud to be her husband. She makes me a better person every day.
THROUGH STEPHANIE’S EYES
Jeff is my best friend and soft place to land. He is my biggest supporter and encourager. If I am having a hard day or struggling with a decision, he listens and appropriately advises. He is loving, gentle, considerate, and patient. Jeff has taught me to slow down, relax, and enjoy the moment.
Jeff strives to help others. He wants to see people reach their greatest potential. When people seek advice from Jeff, he presents as many options with the pros and cons of each but he won’t pressure in a certain direction. He wants people to be happy where they are doing what they are doing.
Jeff looks forward to the time he spends with family, friends, and the children in his life. He knows just the right way to create, build, and sustain a relationship with his nieces, nephews, and cousins. He interacts with each person in a different way which is most appropriate for that person. He has a unique relationship with each and every one of them.
Jeff loves interacting with and teaching kids new things. He discovers their interests and finds ways to help them be better and to encourage their pursuit. Recently Jeff found out a friend’s son, Jake, likes to create his own jokes. Jeff encouraged and challenged Jake every time they were together to create and record his Jokes for later publication. To rise to the occasion, Jake sends Jeff a video text several times a week containing Jake’s Joke of the day.
The impact Jeff has on players and students is seen in the thank you letters and cards he receives, the graduation and wedding invitations, the e-mail letters received years later with updates and accomplishments.
All of these traits will make Jeff a fantastic Dad!
JUST FOR FUN
Stephanie’s fun time includes reading, scrapbooking, card making, and photography. She and her Mom scrapbook together. Really they enjoy just about any craft activity together. Stephanie also has a scrapbooking and card making group of friends. She is the family photographer. She tries to capture typical days, celebrations, and events for future reflection. In terms of physical activity, Stephanie plays tennis and runs 5ks and 10ks.
Jeff’s fun time includes golf, listening to music, going to concerts and attending sporting events.
We take a beach trip each year, usually to Gulf Shores or to visit family in California. Both of us, along with our families, are excited to bring children into our fun times!
Jeff is a college volleyball coach and has been coaching at the collegiate level for the past 5 years. Prior to coaching at the college level, Jeff spent 15 years coaching volleyball at the middle and high school levels, winning several state and city championships. After earning a PhD in 2014, Jeff also serves as an Adjunct Professor, teaching Kinesiology courses at a large public university in Downtown Birmingham. Stephanie is a high school math teacher and has been teaching about twenty years. She has been coaching high school tennis for a few years. Due to Jeff’s flexible day time schedule, he is really excited to be with our child during the day when Stephanie is at work. Being in education, both have quite a bit of time off and look forward to a lot of family time, creating traditions, and traveling to visit family and friends.
WHERE WE LIVE
We live in a beautiful suburb of Birmingham, Alabama with many activities and attractions to keep us busy. We enjoy going to farmer markets, minor league baseball games, public parks, concerts, festivals and eating at locally owned restaurants. The warm climate allows plenty of time and opportunity to spent time outdoors.
Our neighborhood is a safe, gated community within walking distance of several restaurants and stores. There are several walking/hiking/biking trails nearby with parks for kids. The school systems are nationally ranked and offer a variety of programs for students to find their passions through clubs, sports and academics.
No matter where we live, we will always provide an environment that feels like a home. It will be safe, comfortable and nurturing for a child to develop into a self-confident, educated, happy and trusting person that will contribute positively to society. We will place them in the best schools possible and afford them every opportunity to chase their dreams and participate in activities that they enjoy. Through structure, positivity and love, our home will be a safe haven for our child.
MEET OUR FAMILY
Stephanie’s family lives 2-3 hours away. My Mom and Dad are thrilled to have more grandchildren and to continue family traditions. My brother is married with three children, two of which are college age and the third is in early elementary school. They are a camping and sport centered family whether they are playing or watching the games. They cannot wait to meet our child! My sister is married with a two-year-old and another child on the way. She and I have always looked forward to raising children together!
Jeff’s family lives on the west coast, mainly in California. My parents live in a small beach town with the world’s safest beach and is extremely child friendly. In this close knit community, families walk and bike to shops and restaurants. They enjoy time at the beach, in the park, and at the playground. My brother is married with two children and lives in Washington state where they go hiking and camping to experience the great outdoors.
Both Jeff and Stephanie have extended family members looking forward to meeting and having a relationship with our child.
With our regular school breaks, we plan to spend holidays and summer time with family so our child can meet and develop strong relationships with them.
- Lady is a 12 year-old Labrador Retriever, Yellow and Chocolate Lab mix
- Jeff saw her being born, only female in the litter
- She is an excellent athlete, catching Frisbees, soccer, tennis ball retrieval
- Loves to spend time with kids of all ages, super sweet disposition
- Very relaxed and kind
- Well-trained, non-aggressive
- Loves to play hide and seek
- Her face is very expressive, especially her eyebrows and ears
- We treat her like our child and we love her very much!
We plan to raise our child with Christian values and instill morals and ethics based on the teachings of the Bible. Faith is the foundation of how we want to treat and care for others and as the roadmap for our lives. When we have difficult times, we rely on our faith to move forward and understand that God has a plan for us. We attend Church of the Highlands, which offers incredible services for children, newborn through high school and beyond. Our child will be involved with faith-based activities throughout their childhood. Jeff’s favorite scripture is Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Stephanie’s favorite scripture is 1 Corinthians 13:13, “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love; but the greatest of these is love.” We plan to shower our child with love and hope through faith.
OUR PROMISE TO YOU
We would like you to know that you will be trusting your child with people who are committed to being positive, supportive and loving parents. We have known for many years that having children will complete our lives and allow us to give unconditional love to our child. We have seen our family and friends have children and how it changes their lives for the better. We know it will be difficult at times but also the most rewarding thing we have ever done. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
We promise to:
- Love and cherish our child unconditionally
- Raise our child in a faith-based Christian home
- Provide our child with every opportunity for success in their life
- Listen to our child and help them develop their own interests
- Surround our child with loving family, friends and care providers
- Share our child’s adoption story with them appropriately as they grow
- Constantly remind our child how much you love them
- Respect and honor your decision to make an adoption plan
We couldn’t be happier that you are considering us to be the parents for your child. Your selfless act will have a positive impact on our lives and is an incredible gift that we appreciate more than words can say. We want you to feel 100% confident that you are making the best decision for you and your child. We have been through a lot on our way to meeting you and choosing adoption and we would like you to know how important parenthood is to our lives. We have always interacted with children and know that having our own child is the one aspect missing from our lives. You can provide this for us and we will be forever grateful.