We know that considering placing your child for adoption must be a very difficult decision, and we are humbled by your courage as you explore options for your life and the life of your child. We too have been humbled by life as we have tried to build our family, and appreciate you considering us to parent your child through open adoption.
Hello! We are Jessica and Josh
Adoption has always been close to our heart
A few close friends have built their families through adoption and we have been so inspired by them. These friends and their children will be a great source of support and mentorship for our family as we embark on our own adoption journey.
We hope this letter gives you sense of
- Who We Are – individuals that live our values, not just believe in them
- The Kind of Parents We Could Be – Jessica will stay at home for the first year and as soon as your child is old enough, will travel and explore the world with us
- The Nurturing Home We Can Provide – in the vibrant community of Oakland, California where diversity is celebrated
We met 13 years ago while working together in a youth program, and were both initially attracted to each other’s ability to connect and care for young people. After working together as a team, we realized we were in love and wanted to see what kind of a team with could make together in life!
We have both dedicated our careers to helping young people grow and develop. Jessica is currently an Executive Director at a small non-profit organization in San Francisco that helps low-income young women of color to achieve their dreams. Josh is the Executive Director of a large non-profit in San Francisco that helps children, adults, and seniors grow and live healthy, connected lives. Both of us consider our non-profit jobs a fulfilling way to promote our social justice values and make a positive impact in our community.
We love to travel both locally and abroad, particularly in Latin American countries. Jessica speaks Spanish and lived in Mexico for several months in college. Some of our favorite trips together include Costa Rica, Belize, Puerto Rico, Panama, Spain, France, Greece, Italy, and Croatia. Travel helps us to refresh and see ourselves and our lives through a new lens. We love being outside in the sun and water, often spending the warm summer months swimming and relaxing at our neighborhood pool. We like to take walks together to explore our neighborhood and enjoy beautiful Lake Merritt. While we like to be active, we also love relax at home, watching movies and the tv shows together (like “The Fosters”, “This is Us” and “Parenthood”). We like to cook creative, healthy meals together and Jessica is always on the look-out for delicious new recipes. We love just being in each other’s presence and can be quite goofy, constantly joking, dancing, and singing together.
We are ready to be parents. We have so many wonderful gifts in our lives; we have met and married our best friends; we have traveled and explored our interests freely; we live in a beautiful home and a vibrant community; we have meaningful, growth promoting careers; and we have a loving and supportive community of family and friends. We would love to share all the blessings of our life with a child and begin the family we have always dreamt of.
Jessica on Josh
“This is the kind of man you want to raise a child with - Loving, Laughing, and Loyal.”
Josh is very open hearted and warm, what you see is exactly what you get. He sees the best in everyone and when you are with him, he helps you feel your best. This open lovingness is most on display when he is around children. He intuitively knows how to make children of different ages feel comfortable, often meeting them at their level to join them in play. More than once, I have seen Josh pick up a friend’s fussy baby and within minutes, the baby is quietly cuddled up in his arms, trusting and content. When our child cries in the middle of the night, I know that Josh will be the kind of father that gladly gives me some rest while he rocks the baby back to sleep by the window, exhausted but happy beyond measure.
Josh loves being with people and is both dynamic and funny, which often makes him the center of both small and large groups. When we go to gatherings of people we don’t know, I am amazed to watch him instantly connect with people who were strangers to him moments before. He asks lots of questions and is genuinely curious about who they are, what they think, and what they do. By the time we leave it usually seems like we are leaving a group of good friends!
Josh is incredibly loyal and trustworthy. He goes above and beyond to support his family, friends, and coworkers when they need him. He is the person you think to call when you need help or are going through a difficult time. I have seen him take a day off work at the drop of a hat to help a friend in crisis. He is incredibly confident, trusting his own intuition, knowledge, and approach in almost every circumstance. As a result, people trust him because he trusts them, and his balance and self-assuredness helps others to feel comfortable being themselves. He is a natural leader, and is seemingly at his best when the stakes are highest. When we were on a short trip out of town and heard a loud car crash further down the road, Josh didn’t hesitate before he ran to help the injured and control the scene. This is the kind of man you want to raise a child with: Loving, Laughing, and Loyal.
Josh on Jessica
“This is the kind of woman you want to raise a child with: Sympathetic, Steadfast, and Supportive.”
Jessica is, without a doubt, the most thoughtful and conscientious person I have ever met. She loves to show others she cares through meaningful gestures that make them feel seen and understood. When her beloved grandmother suffered a stroke and lost her short term memory, Jessica visited her frequently. She patiently addressed her grandmother’s repetitive questions to make sense of herself and her surroundings, as she knew it would help her grandmother to feel safe and secure. Our child will learn from her that life is made rich by caring for others as you would like to be cared for.
Jessica possesses an incredible personal strength and never gives up on anything she starts. In challenging situations that most would avoid or quit, Jessica just takes a deep breath and forges ahead with courage and perseverance. She has sacrificed time and time again on behalf of the young women she serves. During the economic downturn, Jessica was left as the only staff person at her organization for six months, singlehandedly keeping the doors open for the girls that needed her. For Jessica, values aren’t something you believe in, they are something you do.
I was struck very early in our relationship with Jessica’s ability to empathize with others and determine the unique support they needed. Several years ago, when she found out that two immigrant teen sisters in her program were on their own because their parents were still living in Venezuela, Jessica took them under her wing. She helped them get into college, find jobs, and secure housing. To ensure they don’t feel so alone, she celebrates milestones with them, attending graduations, taking them out for their birthdays, and bringing them holiday dinners. No matter who our child is, which struggles they face, or what kind of love and support they need, she will see them, feel their joy and fear, and move mountains to ensure they live a happy, healthy life. This is the kind of woman you want to raise a child with: Sympathetic, Steadfast, and Supportive.
Our Extended Family
Our entire family has been waiting with great anticipation for us to build our family.
Josh’s parents are retired and live nearby, and look forward to creating hand-made toys for their newest grandbaby. Josh’s brother also lives nearby with his wife and two-year-old daughter, Talia, and we look forward to these first cousins joining in Josh’s family traditions of camping in the Redwoods, making up creative outdoor games, and going to Giants games.
Jessica’s parents live in Arizona. They are both retired and despite the distance, will be frequent visitors to our new family. Jessica’s sisters live in New York and Los Angeles with their partners and are thrilled to meet their first niece or nephew! Jessica’s family are world travelers, avid boaters, and serious ski bunnies and they are excited to bring their first grandchild along on their adventures!
Our Home and Community
We love living in Oakland, California with its great culture, diversity, food, and progressive outlook. Our Lake Merritt neighborhood is very racially and ethnically diverse, and many of our closest friends live nearby. As a result, we often meet up with them for movie nights, walks around the lake, the Farmer’s Market, or a meal together. We are excited to be able to share the neighborhood with our child, taking him or her to nearby Children’s Fairyland, feed the birds at the local Wildlife Sanctuary, take a family ride on a paddleboat, or have a picnic by the lake on a warm summer day. Northern California has so many adventures within driving distance and we can’t wait to take family trips to the beach in Santa Cruz, teach our child to ski in Tahoe, or ride the steam train through Tilden Park in Berkeley.
We believe our neighborhood is the perfect place to raise a child - it is close to all of the activity and culture of the city, but is still green and peaceful. We have cultivated strong relationships with our neighbors who are mostly families with children, and we are excited for our child to join this community, learning to ride their bike on our neighbor’s long driveway, playing on the rope swing across the street from our home, and walking just two blocks up the street to attend elementary school.
Our home is beautiful, spacious, family-friendly and it has become a place of great refuge for us. We spend weeknights together cooking healthy, creative dinners in our cozy kitchen, followed by relaxing on the couch to debrief our days and enjoy our favorite television shows. On the weekends, we soak up the sun with friends in our backyard and take frequent dips in our hot tub to warm up as the sun sets. Our house is the frequent gathering place for Josh’s game nights with his buddies and we can’t wait to include our child in the fun!
Jessica will be a stay-at-home mother for the first years of our child’s life. We know that the early years of a child’s life often chart the course for their health and happiness as they grow into the people they are destined to become. We want to be there for every milestone - their first smile, first word, and first step. This constant closeness and connection from the very beginning will help our child know that they are always safe and loved.
Our Promise To You and Your Child
- Your child will know you and their birth family and will have opportunities to develop their own relationship with you over time if this is something you want
- Your child will have the opportunity to explore how adoption has shaped who they are and the many families to which they belong
- To ensure that your child will be connected to their ethnic and racial heritage and live in a diverse community. They will live with, play with, go to school with, and have adults in their life who look like them and understand what it means to be a proud of who they are
- Your child will grow up feeling safe and confident to be who they are, free of judgement and fear
- To provide your child with tremendous opportunity in life. We will open every door we can so they are never on the outside looking in
- To make their education a priority, so that he or she can reach their highest potential in life
- To travel with your child and expose them to different places, people, and cultures, so they feel at home in the world
- Our family will eat well, and stay healthy and active so your child will have the best possible chance for a long and healthy life
- Your child’s childhood will be filled with fun, encouragement, and delight. We will nurture their joy, their interests, and their unique passions and needs
Above all, we promise that we will unconditionally love and cherish our adoptive child, your birth child, every day of our lives.
We wish you the best during this difficult time and hope that you find a path forward for you and your child that feels right to you.
Jessica & Josh