We are Julia and Ryan! Thank you for taking time to learn about us and considering us as parents for your child.
Raising your child would be the ultimate gift, one we could only repay by promising to love your child unconditionally. We’ll make sure your child knows how much he or she is loved and also that it was your love and selflessness that made it possible for us to become a family.
Please know that we respect your decision and can only imagine how challenging this choice is for you. We would love to be fortunate enough for you to trust us to raise your child. We know that no matter who you choose in this process your baby will be incredibly loved. If they are like us, they genuinely want to be good parents and are clearly willing to go to great lengths to give a child a loving home and family life.
We know you are reading many letters from many potential adoptive parents, so it means a lot to us that you are spending time getting to know us. We wish you health and peace in your journey, and hope that we are a good match for you and your baby.
We met in college at Indiana University back in 1997, where Ryan was a roommate with a few of Julia’s friends. We knew of each other but never really got the chance to talk until a few months later at a friend’s birthday party. Julia says she knew that night that Ryan was “the one”.
Much of our early relationship was long distance. Julia lived in Chicago while Ryan was in Vancouver and California. While the distance was never easy, it taught us to never to take each other or the time we spend together for granted.
What we think makes us work is that we genuinely trust and love each other. We make time to talk and understand each other. We aren’t afraid to work when life gets hard. We both think the same is true of any relationship, be it family or a child. It takes effort, love and making time to listen and learn. We hope to instill these values in our children.
I was born and raised in St. Louis, moved to Chicago after college and lived there for 10 years. I love Chicago – that is when the wind isn’t blowing and the snow isn’t falling. When Ryan’s job offered us the opportunity to move to Los Angeles, I was ready to say goodbye to my snow boats for good! I never imagined I’d be living on the West Coast in California sunshine, but five years later here I am loving it!
I have managed advertising for a major aerospace company for 10 years and luckily was able to transfer to my company’s West Coast office with our move. One of the coolest parts of my job was helping to name a new spaceship called Starliner. I even got to meet an astronaut!
I am so excited to become a mom! My own mom is one of the strongest, most amazing people I know. She taught my brother and me how to be patient and work hard but to also be creative and enjoy life. One of my favorite childhood memories is the “mystery trips” she took us on. We’d hop in the car and she would give us clues where we were going. My favorite trip was when she surprised me by picking up my best friend and took us to the St. Louis Arch. I hope to be able to be a role model to my children the way she is to me.
Ryan on Julia
Julia has a sweet spot for Sour Patch Kids and white cheddar popcorn. When I am get home from work, she takes the time to meet me at the door and give me a hug. She always remembers to send a birthday card or call to her mother or my parents just to say hi. She genuinely cares about doing right by people and goes out of her way to ensure those around her are happy. It is simple things like that that make Julia…Julia, and I know she will be a great mom.
I was born and raised in South Bend, Indiana. I went to Indiana University and then later to Vancouver Film School for animation and visual effects. I am an artist and supervisor/director and work on commercial and film projects. Along with many other talented folks, I make all the stuff that isn’t real. Whether it’s creating fiery destruction for Alice in Wonderland or some surreal effects for the latest Skirillex music video, I love what I do and feel very fortunate to be doing it. Because of my work, I have been able to travel around the world and continue to learn new things each day. I also teach up-and-coming visual effects artists because I believe it is important to share what you know and help those around you.
Julia and I are and always will be Midwesterners at heart. I am low-key, often overly polite because of my upbringing and an undying optimist. I watch too many cartoons and sci-fi flicks but other than that I am just a normal guy who cuddles with cats, likes the occasional Kit-Kat and enjoys running, hiking and drawing – but likely not all at the same time.
My parents have been and continue to be the most supportive and inspiring people I know. They are my best friends and the simple act of talking with my dad on the phone is often enough to clear my head and put things in perspective when everything seems most stressful. I hope to be an amazing father that finds the same mix of love, trust and discipline my parents had when I accidentally set my bed on fire at the age of 4. I’d like to think I am a good man and know I will continue to strive to be a better father and husband. I can’t wait to have the opportunity to teach, love and learn with our own child.
Julia on Ryan
I knew Ryan was special from the moment I met him, it was like I was magnetically drawn to him and life was better when he was around. He is always smiling, even with his eyes. Ryan is the most patient, creative and hard working person I know. I’ve never heard him raise his voice. Ryan treats everyone he meets – whether old friends or random strangers – with kindness and respect. He’s always there for his family, friends and me to talk through a problem and he’s definitely not afraid to tell me when I’m wrong. He’s always up for adventures and makes me laugh with silly stories about our cats. I admire Ryan’s relationship with his own parents and know if he is anything like them, he will be an incredible dad.
THINGS WE LOVE TO DO TOGETHER
We believe it’s important to make time for each other and the people we love; whether that is a lazy Sunday on the couch watching TV, a morning hike in the hills overlooking the Pacific Ocean or going on vacation with our families to Florida.
We recently traveled to Iceland and went on a road trip, driving around the entire country. Our favorite sites included exploring an ice cave nestled below an epic lava field and hiking to a gigantic waterfall we could actually walk behind.
We would love to be able to share these adventures with your child, inspiring and teaching them about all the world has to offer.
Our lucky number is 13. We knew each other for 13 years before we got married. We got engaged and married exactly one year apart on March 13th. We celebrate our anniversaries by telling each other, “Happy 13!” on the 13th of each month. As of this writing, we have celebrated 67 “13’s” and look forward to a few 100 more. Oh, and Ryan was born on a 13th.
FUN FACTS ABOUT US
- Loves watching cartoons and children’s movies and owns hundreds of animated movies on DVD (his favorites are Duck Tails and Despicable Me)
- Considers his dad his best friend and talks to him almost every day
- Makes the world’s best omelets for breakfast
- Keeps a sketchbook of his hand-drawn pictures and ideas with him at all times
- Traveled all over Europe as a teenager with his grandmother
- Wakes up 15 – 20 minutes early each morning to play, talk and cuddle with our cats before she gets ready for work.
- Always remembers our nieces’ birthdays, finding the best gifts so we are the coolest aunt and uncle. She is definitely their favorite aunt.
- Likes being a “girly-girl”. She likes fun clothes and experimenting with makeup.
- Never gets tired of watching
- Loves playing Scrabble and Words with Friends.
We are both very close with our families. We each have one brother. Julia is the oldest and bonds with her brother, Neil, over a shared love for music. Ryan is the baby of the family but is the one his brother, Grant, and parents always turn to for advice. Although our families live in the Midwest we often go on vacation together, most recently spending time in Germany and Austria and, of course they love coming to visit us in sunny California, especially in the winter!
Our families are very supportive and excited for us to adopt. In fact, this would be the first grandchild for Julia’s parents, who are just as excited as she is for the little one’s arrival. On Ryan’s side, we have three nieces, two step-nephews, and almost a dozen cousins in our extended family so our new arrival will have lots of kids to play with at family gatherings.
Our family includes two very fluffy orange cats named Sulley and Scout. Sulley was named for the character in Monsters, Inc., one of our favorite movies. When they’re not catching up on sleep, both cats love cuddling with people and chasing laser pointer lights.
OUR LIFE AND HOME
We both grew up in the Midwest but now live in Santa Monica in Southern California, only 10 blocks from the beach. We’re only a few hours’ drive from the mountains where Ryan likes to ski and snowboard, and even closer to Disneyland and Legoland where we take our nieces and step-nephews when they visit.
We love spending time hiking at local parks and exploring new restaurants in our neighborhood with our friends. We watch a lot of movies together, especially animated ones. We can’t wait to watch our favorites with our children one day and hear their laughter!
One of the best parts about California is the sunshine and the fact that our friends and family are so willing to travel to see us. We love having them visit.
We both plan to take family time away from work once our child arrives. Julia’s company is very family friendly and allows for her to work from home or flex her hours as needed. Ryan’s office is just six short blocks away from our home, which will allow him to spend as much time with the family as possible.
We wrote our own wedding vows, making promises to each other when we came together. As we hope to become a family, we make these same promises to your child. We promise:
To inspire him or her to continue to be a better person
To teach him or her patience, kindness, respect and to give selflessly to others
To love, trust and support him or her, no matter what
To show him or her how to see the world from new perspectives and to always keep learning
We also promise your child will know your love, strength and courage made it possible for us to be a family. You will always be part of his or her life story.
We are certain it is tough to get to know someone from just a few pictures and words on a page, so if there’s anything else we can answer or share with you just ask. We both thank you for taking the time to learn about us and considering us to love and raise your child.
If you have any questions for us or are interested in us adopting your child, please contact your AdoptHelp case worker at 800-637-7999 toll free.
With love and respect,
Julia & Ryan