Hello! We are Michelle & Shane from North Carolina
Thank you so much for taking the time to learn a little about us. We’d really like to share our lives, our love and our laughter with a child, and lucky for us, adoption gives us hope. We can’t even begin to imagine all of the things you must thinking about as you look for adoptive parents. We hope you’ll find the decision a little easier after reading about us and how much we want to open our hearts and our lives to your child through adoption. We have always wanted a child, but pregnancy, it seems, just wasn’t to be. People like you help make our dreams (and hopefully the dreams of our future child) come true. We believe parenting a child is one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences we will do, but we know that our loving, supportive relationship is up for the task and blessing. We are so excited to share our lives, our families, our friends, our experiences, and our love with a child. We will be eternally grateful to you for helping make our dream of parenting come true.
About Us: We live in Greenville, NC, which is in Eastern North Carolina, about 90 minutes from the ocean. Shane moved here from Michigan after getting a job in quality assurance with a local pharmaceutical company, and Michelle moved here from Atlanta, Georgia, to teach at East Carolina University. As early adapters and lovers of technology, we met through Match.com during the early days. We exchanged emails for several months before finally meeting for a lunch date at a local coffee shop and bakery. A year later, Shane proposed by carving “Marry Me?” into a pumpkin on Halloween weekend. Not only did he go through four pumpkins to get it just right, he had to go back to the pumpkin stand multiple times to get the additional pumpkins! We got married in New Orleans (where Michelle is from) and were actually the first wedding to take place in downtown New Orleans at the St. Louis Cathedral after Hurricane Katrina. We were grateful so many of our friends and family from New Orleans and beyond were able to celebrate our marriage at a time when many were rebuilding their own lives and homes. We’ve been married almost 11 years. Before we got married we took a marriage compatibility test through the church. We like to laugh and say we owe our strong marriage to the fact that we scored 100% in problem solving.
What We Love To Do: In the fall/winter, we love football, campfires, and the mountains, and in the spring/summer, we play golf and tennis, watch baseball, and swim and take beach trips whenever we can. We open our home and our hearts to friends and family by hosting many gatherings and parties throughout the year.
About Shane, by Shane: I grew up in Tell City, Indiana (a small city in southern Indiana on the Ohio river) with my mom, dad, and sister. My favorite memory from childhood was walking to Long John Silvers with my Dad on a Friday evening. We would pick up food and bring it home where the family would eat and play Monopoly. When I was in high school, my dad became terminally ill, so my mom stopped working to take care of him. After he died, she took what she learned and became a nursing assistant. I went to Purdue University, and I was the first person on either side of my family to attend college. I was so inspired by my mom that I also work in healthcare. I enjoy making sure the medicine that people need is safe and available. I LOVE BEING “UNCLE SHANE” for all my nieces and nephews, and have enjoyed watching them grow up. If am lucky enough to become a dad, I will teach my child to respect everyone and always be thankful for everything we have. I never got the chance to travel with my parents when I was a child, and I want Michelle and I to show our future child the world.
Meet Shane, By Michelle: Shane is kind, smart and funny. I love that he has supported me in anything I’ve ever wanted to do. He works incredibly hard to make his part of the world a better place. He wants the very best for those he loves, and this will make him an incredibly loving, supportive father. While he’s been incredibly successful in his career, he’s humble and generous. I know he can’t wait to introduce our future child to Star Wars. He’s a quiet, thoughtful guy and provides the listening and calming center necessary for us to solve problems when they arise. He will teach our future child to be generous and stand up for those who can’t always stand up for themselves.
Meet Michelle, by Michelle:I grew up in New Orleans with a large extended family. I moved to Atlanta to be closer to my niece, Emma, who was 3 at the time. Her sister, Allison, arrived shortly after I moved, and I stayed home with her three days a week while I attended Georgia State University for my MA and PhD degrees. In those early months, she could be found sleeping in my arms while I wrote my seminar papers on my laptop with my other hand. Emma and Allison now live nearby in NC. I am blessed to have an amazing bond with my nieces and nephews. After 5 years in Atlanta, I moved to Greenville to work at East Carolina University where I teach professional and technical writing courses and serve as Director of Graduate Studies. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE MY JOB, and spending almost 20 years teaching college students makes for a full life of serving others. My dad always says that I land in the place I need to be, with the people I need to be with; he’s been right so far. The schedule of a college professor, while demanding, is also adaptable, and I will be able to stay home with our child for at least a semester and then continue with a flexible schedule after that. I look forward to reading to our child, teaching them to swim, taking them on walks and introducing them to our family and friends.
Meet Michelle, by Shane: Michelle inspires me everyday. She is the most selfless person I have ever met. She always takes care of others before herself. She cares deeply about friends and family and is always aware of what they are going through and is ready to help. Michelle is a wonderfully smart and powerful woman. I love how she mentors those around her to help them as she was helped. Michelle will be such a fantastic mother. She will teach our child to always think of others. Michelle never wastes time feeling sorry for herself instead turning disappointment into a plan for tomorrow.
Our Family & Friends
People We Love, Our Family and Friends: Shane is from a fairly small family and Michelle is from a very large, Italian Catholic family. Between us, we have eleven nieces and nephews (Michelle’s brothers both have 4 children each), and we are the doting aunt and uncle.
What we like to do with our friends and family: We host a HOLIDAY CAROL SING every December where Will, one of our best friends, plays the piano, and the guests sing along. We spend MOST OF THE HOLIDAYS WITH MICHELLE’S BROTHER, John, his wife, Betsy, who’s always been a sister to us, and their kids Emma, Allison, William, and Benjamin in Chapel Hill, NC with trips over the years to Minnesota, Indiana, and New Orleans. MICHELLE’S PARENTS STILL LIVE IN NEW ORLEANS, and her brother Michael, his wife, Pilar and their four boys just moved from Minnesota to Lafayette, so our child will spend lots of time getting to know the love Michelle has for her birthplace, New Orleans, and Cajun Country. We have an incredibly CLOSE GROUP OF FRIENDS here who are family to us. We have a family-type dinner together with our friends at least one night a week (usually more), and we do a beach trip every summer. We CELEBRATE EACH OF OUR BIRTHDAYS IN UNIQUE, SPECIAL WAYS doing some of our favorite things and eating some of our favorite foods.We make it a point to OPEN OUR HEARTS AND OUR HOME, especially the pool, when our friends’ families come to visit. This often involves fried chicken, a low-country boil with shrimp, potatoes, and corn, and lots of desserts.
Our Home and Closing Thoughts
Home Sweet Home: Our home is two blocks from the football stadium, several blocks from schools and parks located right in the center of things. Our home is spacious and inviting. You can often find us relaxing in our swimming pool, home theatre, or on the screened-in porch together or with our friends when we’re not working. Michelle can often be found cooking a pot of chili in the fall/winter or grilling out burgers and hotdogs in the spring/summer. Hopefully, we have described a few of the ways your child would instantly feel the comfort and love infused in our home.
FOR SIX FOOTBALL GAMES IN THE FALL, the neighborhood is filled with purple and gold as fans tailgate before the games, and we’re right in the middle of this as well and go to as many games as we can. We have tennis courts around the corner and greenways and walking paths within walking distance. When we want something a larger city has to offer like more diverse shopping, theatre and concerts, museums, we head over to Raleigh, NC, which is about 2 hours away. Our community offers several types of family-fun events throughout the year including festivals, farmer’s markets, artwalks, and Sundays in the Park.
Meet Mara and her Friends: SHE LOVES EVERYBODY SHE MEETS and especially enjoys playing with her best friends, Melody and Max, who are our friends’ dogs. On any given weekend, you can find these three running around in our backyard chasing one another or begging for treats and french fries from their humans. Right now, Mara loves treats, belly rubs, and walks, and we’re most excited to be able to take Mara and our child on walks through our neighborhood.
A Special Message To You: Loving a child and giving them all of the best in life will be our number one priority. You can rest assured knowing that we will provide your child with a loving and supportive environment, educational opportunities, and a lifetime of cherished experiences and memories. We are grateful that you might be considering us as adoptive parents, and admire both the strength and love it takes to make this decision. We believe we have lots to offer a child, and we hope you agree.