Hello! We are Nicole and Bob from San Francisco California
Dear Birth mother: We understand this can be an emotional journey and our hearts are with you. Thank you for taking time to consider us. We hope through what we share here you’ll get a sense of who we are and the kind of parents we’ll be.
OUR STORY: Introduced by a mutual friend in 2003, we met in the small beach town of Avalon, New Jersey. After months of talking and emailing, we had our first date at a Halloween party that year – Nicole as Marge Simpson and Bob as Indiana Jones. And we’ve been inseparable ever since!
TOGETHER TIME: We love spending time outdoors taking our doggy on a beach walk or hiking in the redwoods, trying new restaurants, and going to see live music. One of the things that clicked for us early on in dating was our love of music.
TRAVEL: Instead of giving each other traditional gifts, we mark special occasions with trips or experiences. Together we’ve traveled all over the world including to Europe, South America and Africa! We can’t wait to introduce our future child to similar experiences!
Our Backgrounds, Values and Thoughts On Parenting: We have such a strong devotion to each other and to our families. Bob grew up in a small town outside of Cleveland, OH and Nicole in the suburbs of Pittsburgh, PA – with parents that were extremely generous and supportive. We had upbringings that instilled a common value system and it has been the foundation that has helped us along the journey we’ve traveled in trying to become parents and ultimately deciding to adopt. We have a positive outlook on life, treat others as we wish to be treated, give more than we take, and have a good work ethic yet stop to smell the roses and laugh a lot. This will guide how we parent as well. We will be very involved and supportive parents. We will provide a safe and stable home filled with unconditional love. Education is very important to us, yet so is allowing a kid to be a kid and to have time to play. We will encourage both learning and fun, and look forward to helping our future child discover their passions, whatever they may be! Recently, we got to put this into action with our nephew, who stayed with us to shadow Bob at work. Bob gave him a hands-on work experience, and also made time for them to play video games and see a San Francisco Giants game. While we both plan to continue working to some extent, we will always put our future child’s needs first and are very fortunate that we have jobs that are very family friendly. We both have flexible work schedules; ability to work from home, lots of vacation time and Nicole even has the option for a reduced work schedule.
About Nicole, by Bob: When Nicole and I first started dating I vividly remember thinking how lucky I was to be with this girl. Looking back all these years later I still feel lucky! Nicole is the most loving, patient, thoughtful, funny, caring, motivated and beautiful person I’ve ever met. She’s always looking after the little and big details in our life to make certain everything’s taken care of in a way that’s the best for us. The first time we met she covered me up with a blanket after I had fallen asleep on the couch at her friend’s beach house – we had literally just met that day and already she was looking after my well-being! Recently our young nieces came to visit and we all laughed as Nicole pulled out our Halloween costume box and played dress-up with them, taking selfies, playing with Snapchat filters and making corny jokes along the way. It was hilarious! I could go on-and-on but all of this is to say Nicole is going to be a super-Mom!
My Career: I’ve always been creative and I started college as an Art major but found out quickly that I preferred to keep it as a hobby. I found Marketing to be a good balance, and have worked in that field since graduating. It was my job that prompted our move to San Francisco nine years ago, when I started at the Gap. I really enjoy it and have made a lot of good friends. Plus, I’ve had a lot of opportunity to mentor and manage others. This has taught me how to be an encourager, to tailor my approach to the individual, and embrace many different personalities.
Meet Bob, by Nicole: Bob is my best friend. He’s so generous and good to me. Always putting my needs above his own, he takes amazing care of me. He’ll warm my seat before I get in the car or drop me at the front door if it’s raining. And no matter what he always knows how to make me laugh! He has such a knack for relating to kids too – our nieces and nephews can’t wait to play with him! Recently, while in Tahoe with our best friends, their young son was glued to his side. They played video games, built forts out of blankets and pillows, had a dance party on the bed. I know he will be a truly wonderful father and the fun parent that all the neighborhood kids like to be around.
My Career: I have a strong passion for technology, and my work has always been related to that field. For the past nine years, I have worked for 2K Games, a major video game company in the Bay Area, running their IT operations. I love that it’s a fun and creative environment and on the cutting edge of technology.
Our Family & Friends: Our parents still live in the homes we grew up in. We each have a sister and a brother and they have families with kids ranging from 6 months to 19 years old, so there will be plenty of cousins, aunts and uncles in the mix! We FaceTime a lot and visit at least twice a year! We also have a wonderful group of friends in the Bay Area. And we keep in touch with many friends from childhood, college and other places we have lived. We’re lucky that everyone wants to visit San Francisco, so we frequently have family and friends staying with us and love to play tour guide for them.
Holidays & Traditions: We especially love to spend the holidays with our families. There’s lots of cookie baking, big family meals, watching movies (watching Nacho Libre is a tradition with Bob’s family, which always makes Nicole laugh, as it is such a random holiday tradition). For Halloween, we decorate our entire building and make a special spooky dinner (like pizza with ghost shaped cheese and veggie burgers with jack-o-lantern carved buns). And our neighborhood has a huge block party for all the kids. Another silly tradition we started in our early days of dating is related to the Olympics, which we both love watching! The first time we watched them together, we made “Olympic Baked Ziti” for all our friends (baked ziti with cheese Olympics Rings on top). Our friends loved it, and ever since, we make it for every opening ceremony!
Our Home: Our neighborhood is very diverse and family-oriented with kids always outside playing. Our home is a bright, open and comfortable 3 bedroom flat in a 3 unit building with a nice backyard where we’ve started a (very) small vegetable garden this year. There’s so much within walking distance to our home: four incredible parks including Golden Gate Park, museums, famous landmarks, community playgrounds, schools, our local library and more!
Our Pup: Maebe is our 8 year old, long haired miniature dachshund – the cutest, most loving pup in the world! She’s the best snuggler EVER and loves to spend time cuddling on the couch. She also has a crazy love of cheese and enjoys running circles around our home and playing with her toys. She’s our little love bug and we imagine she’ll be the best friend any child could want!
Closing Thoughts: Thank you for taking the time to consider us as adoptive parents. We have always wanted to raise a child, and we are so grateful that we can fulfill that dream through adoption. If you were to choose us, we promise your child will know their adoption story and especially how grateful we are that you made us a family.