Dear Birth Mother
Hello! We are Delialah and Todd and although we aren’t exactly sure what to say in this letter, we know that above all we want to say thank you for taking the time to read it. You doing so gives us hope and even though we haven’t met you, we are already grateful for you! We hope that as you look through our profile, it gives you an idea of who we are as a couple, as parents, as a family, and the home we hope to be for your child.
We have always known that one day we would adopt a child, but we just didn’t know when that day would be. With 3 biological sons from my (Delialah) first marriage, Todd basically married into an instant family. We had our first son together a year after we were married and our daughter a few years after that. Shortly after she was born, we started discussing adoption. We knew we would have another baby, and we both knew in our hearts that adoption would be our path when the time was right.
We live with 4 of our 5 children in a lake community in North Carolina. Our oldest son Aaron is a sophomore in college, but we are lucky that he comes home to visit almost every weekend! Reece and Cameron are our teenage boys who are in middle and high school, Channing is 7 in the first grade and Avaline, our only daughter, is 3 years old. Some people hear that we have 5 children and wonder how we do it, but we love it and can’t imagine not having a large family. We never had a limit on the number of children we wanted to have, and we always believed God would lead us to the size family we were meant to be.
We had an instant connection when we met at a mutual friend’s birthday party. It was the strangest feeling, like we had known each other for our entire lives! We had a lot in common…the same taste in music, a love of theatre, both of us former athletes…but when he pushed the chairs aside to make a mock dance floor in a crowded restaurant and dragged me up to dance to Prince’s Purple Rain, it was a done deal! We immediately became the best of friends and started dating very soon after. After a short engagement, we were married in front of 40 of our closest friends and family members. The 3 boys walked me down the aisle and todd near us as we spoke our vows, taking part in a symbolic sand ceremony to represent us all becoming a blended family.
See Todd, From Delialah’s Eyes
Although Todd and I had an instant attraction, it was seeing him interact with my children that really melted my heart. He was such a natural that it was hard to believe he had no kids of how own and was an only child. Friends call him the “Baby Whisperer” because all babies adore him, maybe because at 6’5” he is like a giant teddy bear. As a professional singer, there is nothing sweeter than listening to him sing bedtime songs to the kids every night.
Todd is incredible nurturing and always goes above and beyond to make sure that everyone’s needs are taken care of. He is a lot of fun and shares my whacky sense of humor! Whether sledding with the kids in a blow-up T-Rex costume, making couch forts in the den on rainy days or having Friday night freeze dance parties in pajamas to the Trolls soundtrack, he always takes things up a notch. In every area of my life he has always been my number one fan, supporting and believing in me even in times when I didn’t believe in myself. He is my rock, and he is our family’s foundation!
See Delialah, From Todd’s Eyes
Spending time with Delialah and her children let me quickly see how deeply nurturing she is. Her strong passion for motherhood was apparent in everything she did. The way she continued to push herself to be her best and be an example for the kids by living up to her own potential, it was so attractive to me. When I met her, I was amazed at how strong she was, and her outlook on life was still as jubilant as a child’s in many ways. Not only was she incredibly beautiful, but that beauty is almost rivaled by her intellect. Her love of music and the arts matched my own and it’s a strong connection we share. Her love of anything that has to do with healthy living shows up in daily life and is a cornerstone of our home.
Delialah is incredibly selfless and is always putting others before herself. She finds joy in the smallest things and is the nucleus of the family. In keeping with her Italian roots, there is always a reason to celebrate. We meet together as a family for all occasions…holidays, birthdays or even just to share good news. No event is too small, and there will always be food and festivities, grandmas and cousins. Traditions are important to her, both old family ones and creating new ones. Her energy is infectious, and people love to be around her.
Some of my favorite things are baking, taking Zumba and other fitness classes, live music and dancing, reading, creative writing, healthy living, giving back to others, 80s culture, boho and hippie style, big earrings, roller coasters, everything Disney, Greek food, all things pink, Shakespeare and English Literature, Greek mythology, old movies, Broadway shows and last-minute vacations.
Things we Enjoy as a Couple
- Live music
- Dueling pianos
- Theatre shows
- Lunch dates
- Comedy movies
- Sunset lake dinners
- Hosting fundraisers
- Eating dessert first
- Netflix binges
- Muscle cars
Meet Aaron, Reece, Cameron, Channing and Avaline
All of our kids are so unique, each with their own special personality…we really have such a diverse family! Some things all of them share are a love of football, pizza Fridays, Ice cream Wednesdays, Star Wars, and everything Marvel Comics..They all attend different schools because we know that they all have different needs and personalities, and it’s important to us that we meet them where they are at, not try to fit them all into the same mold.
Aaron is our oldest son, he is 20 years old and a sophomore in college. He graduated from a Christian high school as the student body President, captain of the soccer team and having starred as a lead role in his school plays. He is so loving, and kind hearted, solid in his Christian beliefs, very responsible and just well rounded. his younger siblings all adore him, and he is growing into a fine young man!
Reece is our wild child! He is 14 and a freshman in high school. It is his first year in a public school, because as an out of the box, independent thinking child, he just didn’t fit the mold of the Christian school his brother attends. He is our natural born athlete who excels at any sport he plays but has a passion and talent for soccer and wrestling. He is both sensitive and stubborn like his mama! He is the cool kid and the ladies’ man, and without a doubt the one that will give me grey hair someday.
Cameron is 13 and in the 7th grade. He is our academic scholar in the gifted and talented program at his Christian school. He has always been my little mush, super sweet and lovable, and kind to everyone. He plays on his middle school basketball team and is taking up golf this year. He is so good with the younger kids. He loves to play with them and always goes out of his way to include them in things.
Channing is our 7-year-old first grader who goes to a nature-based Charter school. He spends most of his time there outdoors learning and exploring in nature and play. He has a smile that lights up the room, a little bit of a wild streak, lots of energy, and loves to snuggle and give hugs. He loves being outdoors and any type of physical activities make him happy.
Avaline is our only girl. She is almost 4 and she has turned this boy house upside down with her love of unicorns, princesses and all things pink. She is sassy but sweet, shy but happy to make friends. She goes to ballet and gymnastics once a week, and next year she will start preschool. She is so excited to be a big sister and asks me every day when God is sending her new baby to us. She has decided she wants us to name her sister Sunflower, Lola, Charlie or Pink Vader.
Things we Enjoy Together as a Family
- Beach trips
- Disney trips
- Mom’s Sunday sauce
- Sunday dinner with extended family
- NBA games
- Church night
- Family game night
- Day trips to the mountains
- Breakfast for dinner
- Sunday football
- Friday night pizza and ice cream
- Christmas Eve festivities
We live in a lake community about 30 minutes from Charlotte, North Carolina. Our dream home is being built in a cul-de-sac right across the street from the lake and we can’t wait to move in and start making memories! An added bonus, our best friends and their 3 children are building their home on the lot next door! We chose this neighborhood because it is so family friendly with lots of entertainment and lake activities for kids of all ages!
Promises to Your Child
We promise that your child will be surrounded by love, love and more love! She will have 4 older brothers who make sure she doesn’t date until she is 25 (they asked me to add that here) and a sister who is anxiously waiting to meet and hug her, promising to be “her very best friend forever and another forever to the moon and sky”. She will have the best of both worlds, private time with special attention from her mom and dad all day while her siblings are in school, then a house full of love and laughter from her brothers and sister later in the day and on weekends!
We want to thank you for taking the time to get to know your family! We are excited about our adoptive journey and hope you choose to be part of that, so we can welcome your baby into our home with love!