Hello. My name is Josephine. I am a Birth Mother and I recently placed my baby for adoption.
When I found out that I was four months pregnant, I was devastated. This news, was not good news in my situation. I became instantly confused, angry and scared. I kept repeating to myself “Why me? How could this happen? What will I do?”
After all of the denial, reality set in. I needed to make an important decision. Nobody knew I was pregnant, except my boyfriend and I. I thought about terminating the pregnancy. But as soon as that came to mind, I rolled into tears. I could not take a life just to make mine better. You see I have two beautiful children. I could barely meet their needs.
A month went by and I knew I didn’t have much time left. I was starting to show and I needed to plan a future for this unborn child and for myself. I was alone one day, going over everything aloud in my mind. Through tears and the unknown, I began to skim through the Yellow Pages. That’s when I called AdoptHelp. I spoke to a wonderful lady who knew exactly what I was going through. It felt so good to have someone who had the answers I was looking for.
I decided to place my unborn child for adoption. I knew this was the best option I could make that would most benefit this child to come. I needed to determine whether to have an open or closed adoption. Everyone has different feelings about this subject. Whichever one “you” feel comfortable with, is the right one. I felt that an open adoption would be the best way for me to go. So I decided to select and meet the adoptive parents.
Once I was sure of my decision to place, it was time to pick out the adoptive parents. The first couple I saw, I knew they were the perfect mommy and daddy for this little one to become a part of. Time has now past and I have made it through the healing period. I’m finally meeting some goals I made while I was pregnant. I can honestly say “I did the right thing”. I’m happy and I am going on. Most of all I will always remember the joy on my adoptive parents’ faces when their dreams of having a child finally came true.
No matter what type of adoption you choose, keep in mind you are not giving up a child. Instead, you are giving a gift! An awesome gift of “Life” to two people who are missing the one thing that only you and I can give.